I'm new to this chat forum. I'm lost as to how to help my daughter anymore. Not sure if there is a parent forum, but thought I'd try this one. My daughter is now 21, she's been on medication for depression since she was 16. She went from a bright, cheerful, active teen, to a depressed suicidal teen all in the matter of months. She managed to graduate from High School. She has never held a job longer than a few months, always some reason to quit. Tried college but again would quit. She put on about 80lbs and just seemed to sleep life away.
I'm a single parent and have tried my best to get her the help she needs. But just recently I've come to the conclusion that I've been taking the responsibility for her actions. I don't feel she has taken ownership.
She had been seeing this young man for over 1 year, and has broken up with him numerous times. At her lastest counseling session I found out he verbally abuses her, by calling her stupid and putting her down due to being overweight, he's very controlling. She pals with no one else but this idiot. I don't speak to this young man anymore. She broke up with him about 3 weeks ago and I was happy. But just last week she went back. This is probably the third breakup and they aren't handled gracefully, it's usually with yelling on his part. I felt it was time she learned how to handle her own life and make her own mistakes, I told her she had to move out. So she moved in with this control freak.
She was taking college courses and again has decided to quit. She has a job and has worked there for a year now. Nothing great, she's a cashier. She's horrible with money and tends to overspend. And she's very good at taking care of others and forgetting herself. There's so many other issues but I just can't put them in words right now. I want to help her in anyway I can but feel it's her turn. I feel heartbroken with my decision to have her move out and push her into this idiot's arms, but a part of me says it's time she picks herself up. I just hope she doesn't stop counseling or her medication. Parenting is hard enough, but having a child with mental health problems has made it even harder.
Just wondered if anyone has similar issues. Or maybe I'm feeling guilty for pushing my only child out into the world and need some reassurance that she will manage.