Overcoming the spotlight effect

[MHealthJo]

It's not really off topic because people who struggle this way can benefit from realising the kind of subconscious activity that can be involved in it. I think you are on the right track with your plan of trying to use good self-talk with it.

[Daniel]

About the "spotlight effect" in the workplace, etc:

The One Reason You Shouldn't Obsess Over Your Mistakes

...If you’re someone who sets high standards for yourself, your errors probably feel really difficult to move past. You might play your mistake on an endless internal feedback loop like a cinematographer in the editing room. Or maybe you talk through every facet of it with your significant other, best friend or a colleague over and over until you’re making them crazy, too.

Why exactly are we so, literally, self-centered? In part, it’s due to something called anchoring and adjustment. We’re anchored in the world by our own experiences, and so we have trouble adjusting far enough away from those experiences to accurately assess how much others are paying attention to us.

Think of it this way: when the ship is anchored in port, it’s difficult to gauge the enormity of the rest of the ocean...