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    Talking to Your Kids About STDs

    Talking to Your Kids About STDs
    May 10, 2004
    KidsHealth.org

    Sometimes it's difficult to see your child as anything but that: a child. Yet in many ways teens today are growing up faster than ever. They learn about violence and sex through the media and their peers, but they rarely have all the facts. That's why it's so important for you to talk to your child about sex, particularly sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).

    Teens are one of the groups most at risk for contracting STDs. You can help your child stay safe just by talking to him and sharing some important information about STDs and prevention. Before you tackle this sensitive subject, however, make sure you know what to say and how and when to say it.

    Timing Is Everything
    It's never too late to talk to your child about STDs, even if he's already a teen. After all, a late talk is better than no talk at all. But the best time to start having these discussions is some time during the preteen or middle school years. Of course, the exact age varies from child to child: some kids are more aware of sex at age 9 than others are at age 11. You need to read your child's cues - when he starts having questions about sex, it's a good time to talk about STDs.

    Questions are a good starting point for a discussion. When your child is curious, he's more open to hearing what you have to say. Another way to initiate a discussion is to use a media cue, like a TV program or an article in the paper, and ask your child what he thinks about it.

    The surest way to have a healthy dialogue with your kids is to establish lines of communication early on. If you aren't open to talking about sex or other personal subjects when your child is young, he'll be a lot less likely to seek you out when he's older and has questions. Spend time talking with your child from the beginning and it'll be much easier later to broach topics like sex because he'll feel more comfortable sharing his thoughts with you.

    What to Say About STDs
    STDs can be a frightening and confusing subject, so you need to be informed when you talk with your child. It may help if you read up on STD transmission and prevention. You don't want to add any misinformation, and being familiar with the topic will make you feel more comfortable.

    A good first step is asking your child what he already knows about STDs and what else he would like to learn. Encourage your child to raise any fears or concerns he might have. Make him feel that he's in charge of this talk, not you, by getting his opinion on whatever you discuss. You might also ask what your child or teen thinks about sexual scenarios on TV and in movies and use those fictional situations as a lead into talking about safe sex and risky behavior. If you let his questions lead the way, you'll have a much more productive talk than if you have a particular agenda.

    Remember: your child may already know a lot more than you realize, although much of that information could be incorrect. You need to provide accurate information so he can make the right decisions and protect himself. And don't shy away from discussing STDs or sex out of fear that talking about it will make your teen want to have sex. Informed teens are not more likely to have sex, but they are more likely to practice safe sex.

    This time might be good to discuss STD prevention with your child. Explain that the only sure way to remain STD-free is to not have sex or intimate contact with anyone. Any teen who is having sex should always use a latex condom, preferably with a spermicidal foam, cream, or jelly that contains nonoxynol-9. While nonxynol-9 has been shown to reduce the risk of contracting gonorrhea and chlamydia, it is important to note that nonoxynol-9 does not protect against AIDS.

    Common Questions About STDs
    Depending on what your child or teen has heard from friends or the media, his questions will probably be fairly straightforward. What are STDS? What do they do? How does someone catch one? How can you cure them? He might be afraid that he can contract an STD from holding hands, hugging, or sharing a glass with someone. Or that, like AIDS, all STDs are ultimately devastating or fatal. Your child may also wonder if people who catch STDs are somehow bad, or whether you can tell a person is infected just by looking at him or her.

    It's up to you to gently correct any misinformation your child may have learned. Always answer questions honestly without relying on euphemisms or overdramatizing anything. It can be tough to step outside the protective parent role, but try to avoid getting too emotional or preachy. You want your child to know you're there to support and help him, not condemn him.

    Tips for Talking About STDs
    Communicating with your teen may not be simple, but it's necessary. If you're always available to talk, discussions will come easier. Literature from your doctor's office or organizations like Planned Parenthood can answer questions for both you and your child. And Web sites like this one (www.psychlinks.ca/pages/teens.htm and www.psychlinks.ca/pages/sex.htm) and www.Iwannaknow.org from the American Social Health Association, discuss STDs and sex in a teen-friendly format. Viewing them together can help you and your child start talking.

    You can also turn to your child's school for information. Find out when sexuality will be covered in health or science class and read the texts that will be taught. Your child's school's parent-teacher association may even offer sessions about talking to teens where you can share tips and experiences with other parents.

    If you try these tactics and still don't feel comfortable talking to your child about STDs, make sure he talks to someone: a doctor, counselor, teacher, member of the clergy, or another family member. He needs to know about STDs, and it's better that he get the facts from someone you trust instead of discovering them on his own.

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    Re: Talking to Your Kids About STDs

    STDs are Normal
    Psychology Today blog: The New Teen Age
    by Kathryn Stamoulis, Ph.D.

    ...We need to counteract the stigma associated with STDs. Even in the most comprehensive sex education programs, STDs are often presented as a dark side of sex. A thing a person dare not ever have. To illustrate how common the shame is surrounding STDs, one need only look to Herpes. While up to 80% of adults have Oral Herpes (aka, cold sores), the mere thought of contracting Genital Herpes has led some people to thoughts of suicide. Similar virus, similar nuisance, and similar harmless side effects. However, the one on the mouth is viewed as okay and normal; while the one on the genitals is detested.

    The reality is that there always exists a chance of contracting an STD through sexual contact, even with the use of a condom and even when there is no intercourse. Similarly there is a high chance of contracting a cold or the flu during the winter when one is in close contact with others, such as on a bus or in a classroom. Illnesses and infections are part of life.

    Just imagine what life would look like if people viewed STDs as a normal part of fooling around. Without fear of tarnishing his reputation, a teenage boy could tell his partner "you may not want to get too close to me this week; I'm clearing up a case of Chlamydia." Or a teen girl may view getting tested twice a year as routine as she does a teeth cleaning. If the shame surrounding STDs is diminished, more people will be willing to get tested regularly and to disclose when they have an infection to current or potential partners.

    Teaching teenagers about the benefits of abstinence and how to use condoms properly are important messages. However, they are messages teens have been receiving for decades and the rate of STDs are astonishingly high. Something has to change. Thinking about STDs as a likely risk of sex (itself a natural human behavior), a risk that is common and normal, will help to ultimately reduce the horrible side effects of untreated STDs and work to reduce the overall rate of contraction.
    "What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us." ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

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    Re: Talking to Your Kids About STDs

    Teenagers Smarter About Condoms Than Adults Are
    By TARA PARKER-POPE
    NY Times blog: Well
    October 4, 2010

    Teenagers are more responsible about using condoms than adults are, a new study shows.
    A vast majority of sexually active 14- to 17-year-olds — 80 percent of boys and 69 percent of girls — said they had used a condom the last time they had intercourse, compared with well under half of adults involved in casual liaisons.
    The data are collected from a wide-ranging study of Americans’ sexual behavior. To learn more, read the full report, “Condom Use Is Highest for Young, Study Finds,” and then please join the discussion below.
    "What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us." ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

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