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  1. #1
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    When you feel you can't go on

    When you feel you can't go on
    by Tammie Byram Fowles, LISW, Ph.D

    I'm sorry that you're hurting so desperately right now. I know how painful the seconds, and minutes, and days can be, how long the nights are. I understand how very hard hanging on is, and how much courage it takes. I ask though that you hold onto one day at a time. Just one day, and slowly this despair will pass.

    The feelings you fear you're trapped in will serve their purpose, and then fade away. Difficult to imagine isn't it? Almost impossible to believe when every cell in your body it seems cries out in agony, desperately in need of comfort. When it feels like the only thing in the whole world that can touch your pain and banish it is beyond your grasp. And after all this time, the assurance that you will heal has become an empty, broken promise.

    Just let one tiny cell in your body continue to believe in the promise of healing. Just one. You can surrender every other cell to your despair. Just that one little cell of faith that you can heal and be whole again is enough to keep you going, is enough to lead you through the darkness. Although it can't banish your suffering, it can sustain you until the time comes for you to let your pain go.

    And the letting go can only occur in it's own time, as much as we would like to push the pain away forever. Hold on. Hold on to appreciate the beauty of the earth, to feel the songs of the birds in your heart, to learn and to teach, to laugh a genuine laugh, to dance on the beach, to rest peacefully, to experience contentment, to want to be no other place but in the here and now, to trust in yourself, and to trust your life. Hold on because it's worth the terrible waiting.

    Hold on because you are worthy. Hold on because the wisdom that will follow you out of this darkness will be a tremendous gift. Hold on because you have so much love and joy waiting to be experienced. Hold on because life is precious, even though it can bring terrible losses. Hold on because there is so much that you can't now imagine waiting ahead on your journey ...a destiny that only you can fulfill. Hold on although your exhausted and your grasp is shaky, and you want more than anything to let go sometimes, hold on even though. Please hold on.

    So much in life can be difficult, even impossible to understand. I know, I know...So many of us have cried in despair, why? why? why? and still the answers and the comfort failed to show. Survival can be a long and lonely road, in spite of all those who've stumbled down the path before you. And it can be a treacherous, torturous journey...so easy to get lost, and yet impossible to avoid even one painful step. And the light, the light at the end of the dark tunnel for so long cannot be seen, although eventually you'll begin to feel its warmth as you move forward. And forward you must move in order to get through the hell of remembering, of despair, of rage, of grief.

    Keep looking forward please. Rest if you must, doubt your ability to survive the journey if you have to, but never let go of the guide ropes, although when you close your fingers around them, your hands feel empty, they are there. Please trust me, they are there. When you're exhausted, when all you have to count on is a weakened, weary faith, hold on. When you think you want to die, hold on until you recognize that it's not death you seek, but for the pain to go away. Hold on, because this darkness will surely fade away. Hold on. Please hold on.

    From: BirthQuake: The Journey to Wholeness

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    When you feel you can't go on

    wow.
    no words...

    There should be more Tammie Byram Fowles in the world.

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    When you feel you can't go on

    Janetr,
    Thank you for posting this letter...I printed out part of it and when i start getting really discouraged I read it...i read it a lot in school and it helps me to get through the day...thanks again for posting this letter...
    kelsey (kels)
    How can you have a beautiful ending without making beautiful mistakes.

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    Re: When you feel you can't go on

    that was the most amazing letter. it gave me the inspiration i needed to carry on and know that life has so many other things in store for me i'm going to try and appreciate life a bit more now. no matter how hard.it was beautiful.

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    Re: When you feel you can't go on

    Great advise...thank you for sharing. Its posts like this that help so much during difficult times.
    In friendship
    Rosa

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    Re: When you feel you can't go on

    the article above says so much, it can reach i think anyone on the verge of suicide.
    I held on because of all the support i got on this forum from everyone, and with the support of my psychiatrist i got the help i needed to get passed this stage of my depression. I really thought i had no choice.. i have since found out that there are other choices, thanks to this forum and it's wonderful members who show so much care and compassion to those in need.

    I just want to say thank you to all of you.. without ye, i wouldn't be here.
    I hope one day to be in a position to be able to give something back to this forum and it's members.

    go raibh mile maith agaibh go leir.
    (thanks a million to everyone)

    nsa

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    Re: When you feel you can't go on

    You already give back much more than you know, nsa. Thanks for being one of us.

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    Re: When you feel you can't go on

    Hi All,

    Quote Originally Posted by nsa
    I hope one day to be in a position to be able to give something back to this forum and it's members.
    This is so not true NSA. You have no idea how much you have given to this forum and to me personally.

    I should be the one saying thank you.

    Take Care
    Nancy

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    Re: When you feel you can't go on

    i don't know how i never saw this letter in all this time. it is beautiful. thank you janet for posting it.

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    Re: When you feel you can't go on

    Quote Originally Posted by Janet View Post
    When you feel you can't go on
    by Tammie Byram Fowles, LISW, Ph.D
    When you think you want to die, hold on until you recognize that it's not death you seek, but for the pain to go away. Hold on, because this darkness will surely fade away. Hold on. Please hold on. From: BirthQuake: The Journey to Wholeness
    I read this article again and I have to say that this particular part really stuck out at me especially the way I have been feeling the last few days.
    Thanks for posting this article Janet and BBC for bringing it back up.

    I really needed to read that again.

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