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    Re: Communicating fear

    Best wishes Gooblax... You'll get there. Very tough to push past that avoidance urge isn't it.

    As for me, I was pretty terrified of a lot of things until I was 15, and then I started a Saturday job as a checkout cashier. Boy was I miserable before each shift, for a pretty long time - uncomfortable about various things while being trained too. But boy, it really did make a major difference for me in lots of ways. There's certainly something to be said for throwing yourself off the deep end, when you are ready to go ahead.

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    Re: Communicating fear

    Forot to mention Developmental Drama Classes... there are many actors that are actually rather shy/introverted as people... acting allows them to "be" somebody else and express themselves... as an experiment... you could practice secretly being (whatever is age appropriate... Justin Bieber... Brad Pitt...
    but it's all inside - you don't have to say so - you just know inside for the time you're in the store -

    I'd pick Albert Einstein - and I'm a 59 year old lady... lol

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    Hey Wolverine.. i am the exact same.. i have avpd.. i cant go into shops, use public transport or speak to anyone apart from family or people ive known since i was little. The thing is the more i do something youd think id get better,,, but the more i do something it makes me worse. I know you you feel
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    Re: Communicating fear

    I can't talk to the phone when people are around me,i avoid to ask or talk people anything.I'm trying to hide,feel strange and weird.

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    I avoid known people everywhere,i turn next road cause don't want to meet them face to face,i'm trying to hide myself from recognize me,leaving from home when someone relative coming for visit and waiting out for hours to go back again.How you understand this situation?

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    Re: Communicating fear

    Wolverine,

    Is there something in paticular that you are anxious about when interacting with others?

    Like a certain subject matter that may come up or perhapse something that has happened in the past that might be causing you to feel this way?

    Have you sought therapy for these feelings and how long have you been having them?
    Being at peace with yourself is truly living.

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    Particular? Εmotions of inferiority because i haven't done in my life things that other people in the same age or younger than me,normal people around me have done,like studies,get work and make their money,have a relationship,get their car and drive,have fun with friends or to have friends that care for you,to be social and not afraid to meet other people cause you may think they will judge you negative,to believe in yourself and doing things you really make you happy,all that kind of stupid complexes.

    I have stupid complexes i can't overcome.I don't have done any therapy,i have these feelings 6-7 years,after high school,i left alone without friends,i failed to my studies,i gave up,i realized that for simple things i must tried more times from others to succeed,i don't have emotional support from family/parents because they can't understand how i feel all these years,so it was easy to be isolated,not like to be in social places,i couldn't feel comfortable if you know what i mean,i was ashamed to see other people have a normal life(of course everybody have their problems) and me not.

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    Re: Communicating fear

    Wolverine, I think that in that case, you need to try and just block out the thoughts about what other people are comfortable with and focus on things that you might be able to challenge yourself with. Start small with something that doesn't involve too much interaction, and then build up from there.

    When I started this thread a year ago, I was afraid of having a job because it would require interaction. Now I've got a job and although I struggle with small talk and sometimes freeze up when I realise I'm going to have to talk to someone, most of the time it's ok. It wasn't a jump from "frightened" to "sort of okay" for work situations; it was a gradual process of pushing myself to do things that were scary at the time, but the more I tried them, the easier it became. Turns out that the advice everyone was giving me was actually correct.

    You can still work towards doing the things you want to do. Just take it gradually and try not to get overwhelmed with trying to tackle everything at once. Also, seeing a psychologist would be good practise for socialising if you get the chance.

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    Re: Communicating fear

    Wolverine,

    Have you spoken to your doctor or any members of your family about this and is therapy something you might consider trying?

    There are many different techniques and approaches to deal with anxiety.Was there a specific event when this began as you said you've felt this way for 6-7 years or was this a gradual change?

    What differences do you notice in how you see yourself now compared to how you saw yourself before this began?

    Are there any activaties social or otherwise where these feelings aren't so strong?
    Being at peace with yourself is truly living.

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