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    Confused... what is my problem? What is causing this?

    I have been having moments, more and more frequently, about fantasies where I am confronted in an unjust situation. My mind wanders, playing out the scenario in my mind. It usually puts me in a bad mood, or hyped up ready for a physical confrontation. Sometimes when I'm at home I'll find myself somewhat acting out the fight. (Never in public though, but sometimes I catch myself mumbling to myself, but rarely). In these confrontations are police, racist people, criminals, or jerks. Sometimes I'll be in the position of helping someone or defending someone.

    I am a foreigner living in Japan with limited language ability, and run into this racism at times, so I feel it may have made it worse.

    Generally I have noticed a slight increase in these negative thoughts and the behavior itself worries me greatly. I am trying to understand why my mind jumps to such thoughts of aggressive confrontation so frequently during the week, and I am hoping to calm myself and reduce it and my bad moods. What worries me the most of all is that I might act out on someone else who in my imagination is some sort of perpetrator of sorts, someone that I might just be sitting next to when my mind wanders off into "day dreaming" of sorts.

    Generally I try to just get my mind on something else when I notice myself being negative or thinking of aggressive thoughts. I want to understand what is going on, and what might be triggering this. I don't feel it is normal.

    Please, does anyone with similar experience know whats going on? How can I deal with this or understand it? Thank you...

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    Re: Confused... what is my problem? What is causing this?

    You're dealing with a different culture and a different language and you likely have limited knowledge of either. This is a breeding ground for misunderstandings and misinterpretation. Add to that some negative self-talk and you have all the ingredients for chronic anger.

    I would recommend seeing a competent CBT therapist but I'm not certain what would be available to you in Japan.

    Do you have any sort of support network over there? Is this a short term posting or a long term relocation?

    As an interim measure, you might find some of the articles here on Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) and anger management useful.

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    Re: Confused... what is my problem? What is causing this?

    Thank you so much for your reply. I've been here for over five years now, and will be here for at least four more, maybe longer. I have generally some sort of support network and friends, but things have been rough as I lost a few friends recently due to a disagreement. Finding a CBT therapist in Japan may be very hard to do, especially since this country shuns therapy in general.

    Before I left for Japan, I was in a very stressful environment which involved extremely noisy small pets. It drove me half mad and I barely avoided doing something violent to those pets, especially when it was late at night and the noise wouldn't stop past 3am. This could have been a build up off of that.

    This mostly occurs now when I'm out in the public by myself, or before I go to sleep. I'm going to read up on those links you sent. I really appreciate the recommendation.

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    Re: Confused... what is my problem? What is causing this?

    Is there an association of Ex-Pats you can join or communicate with, that might have recommendations of local support resources?

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    Re: Confused... what is my problem? What is causing this?

    Not too many really. Few have been here long enough to really give advice, and those that are I don't know personally close enough. I was hoping to be able to deal with this problem myself rather than go elsewhere. I was hoping maybe if I focused more on language and such, the confidence of being able to express myself would improve.

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    Re: Confused... what is my problem? What is causing this?

    WTGuy,

    I have a resource where I may be able to make some inquiries on your situation. Let's see what we can come up with.

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    Re: Confused... what is my problem? What is causing this?

    Thanks, I appreciate it. Any advice helps. If this is getting worse, while manageable now, it bothers me a bit and I want to deal with it if I can.

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    Re: Confused... what is my problem? What is causing this?

    I don't believe you mentioned from what Country you emigrated to experience such a dramatic cultural difference.

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    Re: Confused... what is my problem? What is causing this?

    Sorry, the USA.

    And not sure it is always due to cultural differences. I understand a good deal about the cultural situations at times, but there can be serious problems when they cause negative affects and harm to others around that I know or myself and there is great frustration in not being able to defend or fight back in some way.

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    Re: Confused... what is my problem? What is causing this?

    Have you ever been evaluated medically for mood disorders..anxiety or depression or have you ever received treatment for mood or other disorders?

    Are you living alone at this time? What about interactions with friends, co-workers or other social activities?

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