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    Trying to Understand Dissociation

    I have been reading on it and from what I understand, it's the fuzzy disoriented state that feels kind of dream-like in nature. I've been getting that more and more often over the years.

    What concerns me is, I have found that I'm considering buying wigs and things to alter my appearance so I can go out places and not be ME. I don't want to be me. Even though there are tons of people locally that would *know* it's me regardless of wearing a wig or not. The disoriented state has progressively gotten worse over the years, though it has been gradual, it has been consistent. So I'm guessing that could continue to get worse in the future. I'm scared that in buying wigs and such, that I'm taking some first steps into potentially working my way into developing an alternate personality. Is that even possible? Am I just being paranoid? Someone please tell me that's ridiculous and there's no way that could happen

    ETA: I don't mean for that to sound like someone would throw on a wig and call it an alter. I hope it doesn't come across that way. I'm just concerned that it might be me working my way up to it in my mind or something. And I'm wondering if anyone else might have found such clues in the beginning stages in retrospect.

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    Re: Trying to Understand Dissociation

    No that's not going to happen.

    There is controversy as to the existence of multiple personalities (i.e., Dissociative Identity Disorder, or DID) but even if we assume it is a genuine syndrome or disorder it requires a very specific set of circumstances occurring early in an individual's developmental history.

    Dressing up in wigs or other forms of disguises could not possibly create alternate personalities.

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    Quote Originally Posted by David Baxter View Post
    Dressing up in wigs or other forms of disguises could not possibly create alternate personalities.
    Sorry, I didn't mean that I thought wigs and disguises would create an alternate personality...I was trying to make sure I *didnt* come across that way lol, but I guess I explained it poorly. I wondered if it could potentially be a beginning symptom of a worsening problem. Like, I just wondered if that, along with progressively worsening disassociation problems, could be the beginning stages of something that could progressively get worse and develop into that sort of thing over time. But it sounds like you're saying that couldn't happen, which is a relief.

    Sorry if I explained that poorly.

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    Also, sorry if that was a dumb question. I'm trying to figure out terminology and what everything is and how it applies to what's going on with me specifically. I'm finding myself feeling confused about a lot of the disorders and such.

    I had no idea I was even having any type of disassociative symptoms until the therapist said I was. I had heard of the term before but didn't know exactly what it was. Though once figuring out what it meant, I realized it has been something that has happened a lot and has steadily gotten worse.

    Thanks for answering though. I hope to eventually figure this stuff out lol

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    Re: Trying to Understand Dissociation

    There are no dumb questions, Melissa. There are only questions you don't know the answers to... and that's part of why this forum exists.

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    Re: Trying to Understand Dissociation

    I do understand what you are trying to say. You are wanting to hide and by creating a different persona you think that will help you not be who you are now.

    I do something of the same thing it is not dissociation but it is a way to hide.

    i change my name i stop being who i was so the pain and the sadness leave me

    It is a coping skill i have used for along time and sometimes it works because in my mind i just stop being the person that was hurt

    If i am wrong about how i percieve this i am sorry.

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    Quote Originally Posted by forgetmenot View Post
    I do understand what you are trying to say. You are wanting to hide and by creating a different persona you think that will help you not be who you are now.

    I do something of the same thing it is not dissociation but it is a way to hide.

    i change my name i stop being who i was so the pain and the sadness leave me

    It is a coping skill i have used for along time and sometimes it works because in my mind i just stop being the person that was hurt

    If i am wrong about how i percieve this i am sorry.
    Yes that's exactly what I think I'm trying to do. it has really bothered me that I'm wanting to take a real action to try to be someone else. So this along with increased feelings of being in a dreamlike state sometimes, I was scared that at some point it would get so bad that it would turn into me creating another person altogether. I'm glad it doesn't work that way lol

    I'm still concerned about the fact that I'm wanting to do this at all but knowing that It can't turn into me creating a totally seperate person relieves my mind.

    And thank you for sharing your understanding. This has concerned me. I've felt pretty alone in the desire to do this and embarrassed by it because it seems like such a different way of thinking. It's nice to not feel alone in some of these feelings.

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    Re: Trying to Understand Dissociation

    It would be a good thing to bring up with your therapist ok I know it sounds strange to others and i am glad you posted because now i know i am not alone in the way i think as well. I stopped being someone a long time ago i left her behind and become someone and i just won't be her again

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    Quote Originally Posted by forgetmenot View Post
    It would be a good thing to bring up with your therapist ok I know it sounds strange to others and i am glad you posted because now i know i am not alone in the way i think as well. I stopped being someone a long time ago i left her behind and become someone and i just won't be her again
    I will definitely be bringing this one up with the therapist. I think mine started with the idea of thinking I was hiding my eyes more when I wore my eyeglasses. Then it has progressed to the idea of wigs.

    I'm glad I brought it up too even if it's weird, at least there are two of us who are weird together instead of being weird alone lol

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    Re: Trying to Understand Dissociation

    It kind of reminds me of when we're kids and think "if I can't see them they can't see me". I used to say you could tell my mood by how I did my hair - if it was long and hanging in my face I was trying to hide from the world and if I couldn't see it it couldnt' see me. I think we are on the same concept here. I think it is a coping mechanism for whatever we are trying to avoid, but as has been said I wouldn't worry about it creating a disorder of sorts or otherwise.

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