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    Re: Pointers for overcoming eating disorders

    My specialist said to me the other day that she has never seen a person recover from an eating disorder for health reasons. It really makes me wonder what reasons I DO have????
    I was reading a book the other day that said that there is a reason we stay in our "insane" behaviours: they serve a purpose. There is something better to us about having an eating disorder than being "better."
    Sure gives a person a lot to think about.

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    Re: Pointers for overcoming eating disorders

    My specialist said to me the other day that she has never seen a person recover from an eating disorder for health reasons. It really makes me wonder what reasons I DO have????
    Possibly true. How many people give up smoking purely for health reasons? It may be that there needs to be something else that you see either negative about the status quo or positive about changing the status quo that, added to the health issue, provides sufficient incentive to make the change.

    I was reading a book the other day that said that there is a reason we stay in our "insane" behaviours: they serve a purpose. There is something better to us about having an eating disorder than being "better."
    Often, that reason has something to do with "control" over an unpredictable, uncertain, or dangerous world. In that respect, it has something in common with OCD.

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    Re: Pointers for overcoming eating disorders

    Quote Originally Posted by David Baxter View Post
    Often, that reason has something to do with "control" over an unpredictable, uncertain, or dangerous world. In that respect, it has something in common with OCD.

    I was going to ask something like this about a connection between eating disorders and OCD. I'm beginning to wonder if some of the things I'm doing, self-injury, starving, are all related to OCD.

    I believe in recovery and I've struggled with anorexia and bulimia for about 24 years or so. I think I've just now begun to really believe I can get better. It is going to take a long time though.

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    Re: Pointers for overcoming eating disorders

    Janet, what is it that makes you believe you can get better? Right now this seems like such a huge mountain for me. I believe very strongly in recovery and in all my soap-box rants about pro-ana and all that jazz... yet here I am starving to death. I just need a reason, but I feel like I'm grasping in the dark.

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    Misha, I guess it's believing what my therapist says, that I'm fixable, even with all the problems I have. He seems to believe in me and that just hasn't happened in my real life before. I was told long ago I'd be better off dead than the way I am, but my therapist doesn't think that. I don't know. I guess I'm holding on to that little bit of hope he seems to believe in.

    I'm sick of it, the eating disorder. I know you are too. It IS very hard. I just look back and feel so sad that everything I've ever done has been tainted with worry and fear due to the eating disorders and other things. I resent it and I want a life without it. Maybe there's an anger or something rising up in me giving me strength and courage to fight. Plus, I have a little girl who depends on me to protect her and be strong for her so she won't go through the things I went through that led me down the hard paths in life I've taken.

    I guess it sounds simplistic, but I believe I can get better.

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    Janet, it doesn't sound simplistic. It sounds real... and I'm hoping to get to the point where I can be real. I saw my ed specialist this morning she is very concerned about how fast I'm losing weight, and my ability to think when I'm in this state. But she doesn't know what to do with me, because my issues are so diverse and nothing seems to stem from what the textbooks say things stem from, or what either of our experience says.... so we're both clueless and we know it. But she is wonderful at what she does and we keep on working together and grasping at straws even if we are grasping in the dark. It was pretty depressing this morning, though. I am running out of time.

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    when i look back onto this post a very important tips was left out and i felt the need to share it with al of you cause if you don't follow it well than your recovery would have been pointless and relapse will be highly likely . first i thought of this tip the other day in psychology class and how we were learning about internal and external motivation and that most of the time external motivation doesn't work unless you can associate it with an internal motivation so all that to say

    • When you decide that you are ready to recover don't let anybody tell you to do so don't do it for everyone else do it for what you want cause if you don't really really want it you will just fall back into it.
    • Remember that it is not easy far from it so don't get discouraged when you have a set back. relapse is part of recovery (my psychologist in my last hospitalization told me that ) you learn how to do better.
    • Every day when you feel that you are going to go back to the old habits remind yourself of your motivations , and also ask yourself .. DO I want to die? cause ultimately it leads to that (and i know some of you are thinking maybe that is what i want but that is the e-d that is talking trying to convince you that you don't have a chance
    • Be honest to the people around you cause dishonesty will only stall your recovery they need to know things to be able to be there for you if you tell them everything is great and you are having a hard time you will lose hope and feel alone .. if they know they will surround you and help you
    • you may believe no one cares no one can help you no one understands but the truth is they don't understand but not because they don't want to but you don't give them the chance to . the thing is they can't understand what you are going through but they are going through hard times too it's not easy watching you fade away so understand they are acting the best they can in the circumstances..
    • most of all let them help you cause you can't do it on your own you can try you can really believe it but it will drain you of all your energy let them in.


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    Life is all a perception. Do you see what I see? ...
    The more I fade away, the more they want me to stay...

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    Re: Pointers for overcoming eating disorders

    finding a good psychologist that you are comfortable with and you feel okay talking to them. someone that you can laugh with as well as be emotional with finding someone that you feel an understand you and not judge you is probably the thing to do because getting out of an eating disorder is almost impossible on your own.
    Life is all a perception. Do you see what I see? ...
    The more I fade away, the more they want me to stay...

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    Re: Pointers for overcoming eating disorders

    • trusting someone other than yourself because when you are in the mindset of the eating disorder your head is the last thing you should trust (it plays tricks on you)
    • When your head is telling you to give up and that you can't make it tell it to shut up!
    • When you feel like it's worthless and that the fight can't be won, hang in there.
    • When you feel like you can't do it anymore and that your losing it and you feel like you need more help sometimes the thing you want less is probably the best thing, hospitalization could be a very good option don't forget that ever.
    • If you ever feel unsafe go to the emergency room closest to your place or call 911.
    Life is all a perception. Do you see what I see? ...
    The more I fade away, the more they want me to stay...

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    Re: Pointers for overcoming eating disorders

    I think i forgot one very important thing, eating disorders are disorders of the mind we must always remember no matter how strong the grip of the eating disorder is we are still in there we are still the ones that make the final move. it's hard to fight something we can't see something that we can'T look at and say i'm gonna beat you . With physical disorders they have an enemy to fight ours is in our head but it doesn'T make it less real we have to remember we know us more than it does we have been in our bodies in our lives more than she has so we need to look deep in ourselve to find what makes us passionate what is worth fighting for. Example. I 'm fighting for a family my wedding my eventual kids I'm fighting cause more than anything i want that.
    Life is all a perception. Do you see what I see? ...
    The more I fade away, the more they want me to stay...

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