Re: Shyness and Introversion: Are They Really the Same?
I don't think I am mistaken for being overly submissive,but I am mistaken for being snobby and snooty and have heard that quite a few times through the years.
If I meet someone and they start talking to me,and if I think there's really no chance I will ever see them or talk to them again,like some random person at the store,in the waiting room at the doctors office,etc.,I have no problem being friendly and chatting.But if it's someone that may possibly end up being a part of my life in any way,like someone that's going to be in the same weekly group as I am,go to the same church,work together,etc.,it's extremely hard for me to talk to them.I have to gradually get to know them before I can even have a conversation with them.It takes quite awhile to let my guard down and then once I do I am completely comfortable and talk....alot.
People mistake that for being snobby though,they don't understand that it just takes me awhile.I think I have missed out on alot of potential friendships because people don't stick around long enough for my guard to go down,they don't take the time to get to know me and for me to know them.I understand where they're coming from though,if I talked to someone and they only responded with one or two word replies,I would think they didn't want to talk to me too,I would probably think they're snobby too.But it hurts sometimes because I am definitely not a snob,but I have heard people say that I am.
I do best in very small groups of people,I would much rather hang out in a back yard in front of a bonfire with a few close people than go out somewhere.And I don't mind being alone,not all the time,but I'm okay with it.
You will never change anything that you are willing to tolerate ~Myles Munroe