Re: The Most Important Ingredient in Good Therapy
I've spent most of today pondering this post and it's such a loaded question I don't know that there is one single most important ingredient.
For me, I can break it down into several categories of what I'm looking for in a therapist / therapeutic relationship.
First are the practical issues such as location, hours, cost. I'm willing to travel for the right therapist but I also work two very busy jobs so their hours need to be flexible enough to accommodate that. After all that, can I afford their fee?
Then comes interpersonal aspects - do i feel a connection with this person on some level? Do I feel like I can tell them every detail of my life at some point? Do they have a sense of humour (I use humour a lot, especially when I'm uncomfortable, so a sense of humour is important)? Do they display empathy and compassion without being overbearing about it? Can they "humanize" themselves - i.e. talk about their own faults and failings and questions about life and relationships? Do they "dig" (this is important to me - a passive therapist won't work with me. I like ones who dig. This might be the single most important thing for me, now that I think about it).
So, there are many variables, some just as important as others. Some more important. I'll go into debt for good therapy, so even if I can't truly afford their fee, I'll find a way if I truly believe they are the right therapist for me. I will (and have) flown across the country for weekly sessions with the right therapist. l need to be comfortable though and feel like there's a connection, and that they "get" me.
This is a huge question, Ryan. I hope you get some good insight to it.
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