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    Not enough of a reason for feeling the way I do

    At my last season my therapist raised the point that my emotional response to something is stronger than it should normally be, and that maybe there's something I'm not telling him about. But there isn't anything else so the possibilities are:

    1. I haven't properly explained some surrounding circumstances.
    2. I'm a weak pathetic sissy (which is still inbuilt into possibility 1, because needing a gigantic backstory is pathetic too).


    I've been trying to come up with a way to try explaining the things that might be unexplained but maybe I shouldn't even bother because it's all just too minor and I should be more focused on moving on from the idea of talking about any of this stuff.
    If it weren't for my long distance bf I could cancel my internet, and get a dumb-phone plan without data just for calls with my parents and that'd be that.

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    Re: Not enough of a reason for feeling the way I do

    because it's all just too minor
    Maybe try to find recurring themes during journaling? Even if something seems minor, isn't life sometimes about the details?

    Journaling can help facilitate therapy in any case: Journaling in Therapy | Psychology Today

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    Re: Not enough of a reason for feeling the way I do

    If it weren't for my long distance bf I could cancel my internet, and get a dumb-phone plan without data just for calls with my parents and that'd be that.
    Or go on a cruise (The Internet was so slow for me on Norwegian Cruise Line that I just used it to read Google Books.)

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    Re: Not enough of a reason for feeling the way I do

    Hi Gooblax:

    Why put yourself through figuring out the details? When the timing is right, the words will come. One of the ways I cope is through journaling. I tend to edit less. I'm not big on telling everything to my therapist because we are different people and he doesn't always get what I am sharing. Some times, I need to just let myself off the hook and just breathe.
    Jesse

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    Re: Not enough of a reason for feeling the way I do

    Thanks for the journalling suggestions.

    I've been reluctant to do journalling this time around because I feel like I need to be talking to someone else. I don't feel safe trusting myself with my thoughts, if that makes sense. (My old journal used to turn into a self-insulting activity.) That said, I spend plenty of time scribbling things down on random bits of paper or in random word docs or notes on my phone so that's almost like a journal but far less structured and always with the intent of trying to put my thoughts into an order to be communicated to someone else. Maybe I do just need to find a single location to put it all, and pretend I'm writing to a version of myself who's not going to be an asshat.

    Once it gets later in the day I'm going to ask my therapist for a session either the week after next or later (also once I determine how to word that nonconfusingly). The only thing this break has done is made me feel more miserable... which was one of the aims, so no surprises there. I guess it also got me thinking about why it made me miserable so that might be useful too.

    But maybe having a session date as a target will at least put the brakes on the mopey train.

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    Re: Not enough of a reason for feeling the way I do

    But maybe having a session date as a target will at least put the brakes on the mopey train.
    Like booking a cruise to the psyche

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    Re: Not enough of a reason for feeling the way I do

    Quote Originally Posted by Daniel View Post
    Like booking a cruise to the psyche
    Haha sure, something like that

    When we last spoke he said he'd prefer that I sms to ask for a session rather than email so that's a different beast in itself.

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    Re: Not enough of a reason for feeling the way I do

    Does SMS make it easier than email? Or more difficult?

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    Re: Not enough of a reason for feeling the way I do

    Quote Originally Posted by David Baxter View Post
    Does SMS make it easier than email? Or more difficult?
    I won't know until I try it.

    SMS I think is more "interrupt-y" than email so I'm mildly worried about sending it at a bad time. I refused to save his mobile number as a contact because it seemed weird but I do have his number from when he SMS'd me about being late and it's included on his bills and email sig so it's not like it's weird for me to have it but it feels weird to use it. But email feels weird too so there's no real net change there.

    The real test will be with how I go after sending it, like will I be checking my phone a zillion times (probably) the same as with email.

    I dunno, SMS just feels a bit more personal than an email even though I'd guess its a separate work mobile and I'm saying less personal stuff (like literally just hey can we have a session at xyz?) .

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    Re: Not enough of a reason for feeling the way I do

    Yeah I would prefer email personally. Less intrusive on both sides.

    Like I usually answer emails fairly promptly but I can do it when I'm ready to reply. SMS is more of a demand which makes me feel like I should reply immediately.

    I would recommend that if SMS puts you off at all, just do the usual email request.

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