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    Re: My ongoing therapy dilemma


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    Re: My ongoing therapy dilemma

    Maybe if you just try a session with a new therapist, it will help you decide or adjust?

    For online therapy, there are so many options now, including internationally.

    I know some people stick with the same therapist for years, but I am not one of those people. I like different perspectives. Every therapist brings something different.

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    Re: My ongoing therapy dilemma

    In other words, we are geared towards "loss aversion" but transitions can be less difficult by having something else to look forward to or just focusing on the present. Even positive transitions though can be stressful.

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    Re: My ongoing therapy dilemma

    I'm nervous about my session tomorrow and am worried that it's not going to go well. Or even if it does go well, some part of it won't.

    I haven't told my parents what time I'll get to their place because I'm not telling them about the session. I couldn't lie about the flight time because there's no flight with that airline that lines up with the session time, even accounting for delays (and I can't lie about the airline because I booked a return flight with the same airline so it would be too much effort to maintain a lie about what airline or whether I booked two one-way flights with different airlines).

    So my mum's assuming she'll pick me up from the train station at some point in the afternoon, but that's definitely not happening (by that point it'll be easier for me to get a bus and bypass the train altogether) and I have to figure out a way to tell her tomorrow. I have told part of the truth about what I'll be doing tomorrow (the part before the session) but now need a lie to explain why I still won't be arriving for that bit of extra time past when some things will be closed (and so my "what I'm really doing before the session" will be closed by the time it gets to "during the session and taking so long to get to their place").

    But all that is less of a concern than the actual session. Or even being in the reception waiting area.

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    Re: My ongoing therapy dilemma

    The therapy session went ok. Once I got to the office I wasn't as nervous as I'd expected to be. Talking to him (or to the wall beside him at least 50% of the time) was similar to on video, which was >9000% better than 10-11 years ago. I'd mentioned beforehand that I wanted to keep it fairly light to avoid going into the holidays feeling bad, so we discussed some stuff about work, relationships and the holidays and about how we'd been communicating.

    Next session won't be until early Feb. He said I could email/text/call if I'm struggling but I reminded him that his reply timeframe transforms my original problem into something worse so I wouldn't be doing that. He didn't offer up any alternate solutions so I guess I'll keep it as a last resort.

    I do find it hard between sessions, mostly I think because of how strong my feelings are about him. It'll be about 8 weeks total (he's having 4 weeks off but is working next week, then when he asked me what I wanted to do next year I didn't want to be pathetic and ask for a session straight after he comes back to work so I said Feb). I wish I could just not care about it but I'm making myself upset now just writing about how much time it's going to be.

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