Quotes about Abuse, Domestic Violence

[Daniel]

“You do not win by struggling to the top of a caste system, you win by refusing to be trapped within one at all.”

“The beauty myth is always actually prescribing behaviour and not appearance.”

“A culture fixated on female thinness is not an obsession about female beauty, but an obsession about female obedience. Dieting is the most potent political sedative in women’s history; a quietly mad population is a tractable one.”

― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth

[Daniel]

"The primary reason we don't recommend couples counseling is that abuse is not a "relationship problem." Couples counseling may imply that both partners contribute to the abusive behavior, when the choice to be abusive lies solely with the abusive partner. Focusing on communication or other relationship issues distracts from the abusive behavior, and may actually reinforce it in some cases. Additionally, a therapist may not be aware that abuse is present and inadvertently encourage the abuse to continue or escalate."

~ National Domestic Violence Hotline

[Daniel]

"I always think it's a good sign when a man likes cats. It shows he doesn't feel the need to be in constant control of things."

― Anne Tyler, Clock Dance

[David Baxter]

^^^ I love this!

[Daniel]

“Across the U.S. there is a very strong association between marital discord, being unhappy in a marriage, and suicidal ideation and attempts.”

"Some studies have found it's better to be divorced or separated than stay in an unhappy marriage, that you may live longer if you get out."

~ Briana Robustelli, quoted in Unhappy marriages linked with risk of suicide

[Daniel]

"It is the most vicious of all crimes -- to be abused by someone you had a relationship with! Because then you blame yourself."

~ Joe Biden