I have been dating a man for four years, and we have lived consistently
together for the last year. I always just thought he was a little
eccentric, but a friend of mine today suggested he may be
schizophrenic. Could anyone help me if I post a list of his personality
First off, when we met, and still today, I found his house to be
a total dump -- it wasn't just not kept up like paint, carpet, so forth --
you couldn't find a place to sit down and boy, the smell -- cats, you
know. His front yard consisted of old cars that didn't run in the drive
and monkey grass for his yard where sod should be. He never has
showed much interest in "fixing" the place up until I started talking to
him about how he was losing money on his investment.
He writes notes on yellow pads constantly and makes drawings,
encourages me to do the same -- claims that he is an engineer since he
graduated with a civil engineering degree but never worked a day in his
life as an engineer.
He bathes about every day or two, and all he really is interested in is
working out every day at the gym and spending hours on end reading
blogs on the internet. He is very controlling of me, although he thinks I
am controlling, and he believes that even the most benign things are
some sort of conspiracy.
He was a jet pilot in the Air Force for 10 years, having graduated from
the USAF Academy, but got out because he couldn't stand authority
and still can't handle authority today. He came from a fairly well-to-
do family, so after the air force, he took off for about FIVE years and did
nothing but read in the library all day! He has been tutoring college
kids in chemistry, calculus and physics for the last ten years. He has a
very high IQ, knows everything about everything - literally! He has
lots of pie-in-the-sky schemes, some are great ideas, but he never
follows through. He has been working on a rapid transit invention for
15 years and has done nothing to implement it, but still works on it
occasionally, and grinches at me if I bother him while he is "working."
He has absolutely NO motivation to do anything around our house, his
house, or in getting a job, or getting one of his grand ideas off the
He is very anti-social, thinks my friends are boring, although he is
always nice to them. And several times I have seen him speak
inappropriately to some people that he barely knew by arguing his
point so loudly and wouldn't let anybody else speak up -- he was very
He forgets things I tell him constantly, forgets where he puts things,
doesn't even know from day to day what time his tutoring appts. are.
His van is in the same shape as his house. And he does nothing around
our new house unless I suggest it. I go to work in the morning and he's
blogging when I leave, and he's still in the same chair when I get home
in the evening. I wonder sometimes if he even comes up for air. He
really feels that he can save the world. He worries about oil reserves
and running out of gas in a few years, says he has cures for cancer and
AIDS if anyone would listen, but doesn't really believe that anyone
would listen to him.
He tells me that his mind is jumping from one topic to the next
constantly, and he doesn't sleep too well at night, even after lots of
He has a brutal temper, although it takes quite a bit to provoke him,
but once he's provoked, watch out! We have holes in the wall of the
new house, and last night I got a black eye! We are apart right now,
but in visiting with a friend, she suggested that he's schizophrenic.
Can anybody out there relate to any of this? And can anyone help me?
I know if I mention this to him, he will turn it back around on me.
Thanks for your reply!