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    I feel like a volcano...

    that is about to errupt!! I am telling you, this anger is going to do me in. I was triggered this morning by finding out that my overtime from last week will not be honored since I took a sick day last week. They had posted a few weeks ago, that if the sick day was known in advance (which it was), that the OT would be granted for anything worked over 40 hrs. They decidedit was a typo and now I am going to have to deal with less money now.

    I know a LOT of my frustration and anger is because I am earning half the salary that I used to get and it is annoying the hell out of me. I have tried to find anything that pays better but the market is lousy and my field is now outsourced, so I need to be retrained in another field.

    I decided to look into community college to get trained in something else that will bring a decent paycheck, but wouldnt you know it.... ITS SPRING BREAK, and now I have to wait till next monday... ARRRGGGHHH.
    I have to get out of this place. I HATE IT!

    I seriously think I need anger management classes but have no idea where to look for these classes. I have mentioned it to my therapist but he says I need to deal with things and hasnt mentioned for me to go. I WANT to go, because my anger is way out of control. When I am set off, the anger inside me can be scary! I really dont want to be this way, but I dont know how to control it.
    Has anyone gone for anger management and does it help? Where can I see if there are classes in my area?

    Can anyone help?

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    Re: I feel like a volcano...

    An important part of dealing with anger is confronting and addressing the cause of it. Another part of anger management is learning how to let things go, achieve release of tension, so that it doesn’t build up threatening to explode. There are no shortcuts.

    I don’t think your job’s overtime policy is the problem, but I do think it acted as a strong trigger. I also feel that you’ve done a good job identifying what the cause was/is and what you need to do to get out of the rut you feel you’re in. You said that your therapist said you had to “deal with things”. I don’t know what those “things” are but I’m willing to bet that it may very well be a step towards the anger management that you seek. What have you got to loose?

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    Re: I feel like a volcano...

    achieve release of tension,
    "thumping a cushion or pillow"
    "kicking a football really hard against a wall"
    "shout from a hilltop" (for instance)
    " go for a fast walk or run"
    "breathing excercises also help"
    (these used to help me when my anger started to rise or had risen)
    if u haven't tried any of these already.. maybe one of them .. might help to release tension while you are seeking classes or "dealing with things". And not forgetting.... writing about it like u did here.
    maybe others here have other suggestiions\ideas..

    I have never attended anger management classes so can't help you on that Q.

    sometimes these classes are advertised in local newspapers, on health clinic notice boards. or even on notice boards in shopping malls. (over here that is)

    I also feel that you’ve done a good job identifying what the cause was/is and what you need to do to get out of the rut you feel you’re in.

    I agree with Lana on this.

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    Re: I feel like a volcano...

    Thank you both for responding! I spoke to my Dr last night and discussed my anger. For now he wants me to exercise for 30 minutes a day at least and swears that will help. He also wants me to try and remember troubling things from my early childhood to discuss when he is back in the office.
    Hypnosis is going to be tried to get at some early memories, if I am open to it. He said he is not sure that I will "let" it happen, but we may give it a try.
    In any event, I told him I need to learn to deal with my anger before I get hurt. I dont like feeling out of control and the anger just takes over.

    I still want to check into anger mgmt, but will wait to try these other things first.

    I am doing better today, but I feel like I am "dormant" and can go off when another thing triggers me.

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    Re: I feel like a volcano...

    how did u get on at the community college Sunset? find anythng to suit you?
    is the running helping you, u must be very fit...

    i think i'm going to have to use the cushion myself one of these days.. *s* hmm maybe i could have used it tues.. never thought of it...

    anyway.. just thought i'd ask how u is getting on.. *s*

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    Re: I feel like a volcano...

    Hey Notsure...Thx for asking!!

    I am trying to exercise everyday, but I really have to force myself. When I do exercise, I do feel better physcially and mentally.
    When I do get angry and feel like I am going to lose it, I try to think it out and see where the anger is coming from. Guess I am trying to "Dr" myself in a way. LOL!
    I am still trying to see what path to take as far as school goes. I want it to be a specific trade, and get the schooling over and done with as quickly as possible! My Dr is helping me with this and I see him this thursday, so I need to have some things ready to discuss.

    Anyway, thank you for asking! Hope all is well with you.

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    Re: I feel like a volcano...

    Quote Originally Posted by sunset
    Guess I am trying to "Dr" myself in a way. LOL!
    Thats the best way, and the most we can expect. A Doctor Dr. can only help us so far, and then we have to take it further within ourselves, so well done!

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    Re: I feel like a volcano...

    sunset: how are u getting on these days.. you must be very busy.. i haven't seen you around here for a while now..
    hope you are well.

    thinking of you


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    Re: I feel like a volcano...

    NSA... WOW! I think I have esp now, because for some strange reason, I decided to check this forum out again, and here is a note from you inquiring about me.
    Thanks for thinking about me. I have been busy and doing ok, but the job situation is still the same.
    In the fall, I am planning on making a change one way or another. Just waiting out vacation season. haha

    I still am seeing my therapist and he is my rock.
    Hope you are well too!

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    Re: I feel like a volcano...

    lol sunset... nice to see you here.. hmmm.. esp huh. maybe a new career coming up then, madame sunset!! reveals all heh heh..

    you sound so upbeat it's great!!
    GOOOO Sunset!!

    enjoy the hols when u get them ok.

    and glad you are finding your therapist so good.

    be well and happy


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