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    Question Can You Read Body Language?

    It's been said that we communicate as much if not more by unconciously doing things with out body as we do using verbal communication.

    Verbal communication sometimes seems to contradict what we perceive the other person is saying through body language.

    What are some types of body language that give people away who might not be telling the truth. For that matter what body language reinforces what we are being told as the truth?

    In the end, can body language be really trusted, or is this just something that's been made up?

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    Re: Can You Read Body Language?

    i don't know where i picked up on this bit of info but somewhere i heard that only 7% (or something like that) of our communication is verbal. the rest is all body language.

    body language is a big thing, in my opinion. the trouble is we may misinterpret it
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    Re: Can You Read Body Language?

    Hi everyone,
    Communication is very important, body language, sign language, and verbal language defines who we are, it helps and hinders us, we have ways to communicate that we do not know how to express!!

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    Re: Can You Read Body Language?

    I take heed to body language, but I'm sure not an expert in it. I do notice things about people's presentation, stance, and use of hands and eyes that give hints as to what they're thinking. If a person can't look me in the eyes, or keeps glancing downward while talking, I tend to doubt their veracity. A person who folds their arms over their chest during conversation isn't really taking in what's being said. Of course, we've all seen the person who fiddles with the crease in their pants, or taps their fingers on their knee while sitting in a meeting. Poor soul is bored senseless, and may well have something else pressing.

    I do believe we convey quite a bit this way, often without realizing we're doing so.

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    Re: Can You Read Body Language?

    I've been misled (a lot) by body language, it all has to be taken in context. I know people who can't look others in the eye, not because they're lying but because they don't believe in themselves. And it's sad to see. They seem frightened.

    I think you have to get to know the person, you have to listen to both verbal and non-verbal cues It would be nice if we had a rule book but we don't.

    Interesting question, thanks TSOW.

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    Talking Re: Can You Read Body Language?

    What was the name of that book everyone was reading a few years ago on body language?

    One of the suggestions in the book was that people felt sorry for another person who was on their hands and knees...some sort of primal reaction.

    So all of a sudden when people got stopped by the police for a traffic infraction, they would be dropping their wallets on the ground, then getting on all fours to get the sympathy of the cop in the hopes of getting let off

    It seems the cops caught on to that one pretty quick!
    Last edited by Retired; September 12th, 2006 at 08:19 AM. Reason: rephrase

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    Re: Can You Read Body Language?

    Very interesting question TSOW. I know for me that I fidgit a lot but that is my anxiety spiking and the feeling of not being able to get out of the situation that I am currently in. I often feel sorry for others when I see them fidgit because I think that they may be in the same category as me. Now about eye contact. I have in the past had trouble in therapy with keeping eye contact (with specific therapists) but in normal conversations I don't have trouble but I do have trouble with others not being able to even make any eye contact with me at all. We have a person here at work that when talking to you she will not at all make any eye contact with you and will look away from you.....that irritates me....now how did I get on this topic.....oh ya.... I think that I am a good reader of people and their body language, much more than I was say a few years ago and a lot of it has been by watching myself and the way that I portray myself and what my expressions with my body have been.

    I do find that sometimes I tend to overanalize peoples expressions and movements (especially my therapists) to the point that I start to worry excessively about what this and that expression may have meant but that is just my nature of worrying which is an area that I need to work on

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    Re: Can You Read Body Language?

    i notice that when it's hard for me to talk about something in therapy i don't look my therapist in the eye, i just kind of look away. also when i am trying to think up an answer to a question that takes more thought i tend to look away at a blank space somewhere. i think that is a common one.
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    Re: Can You Read Body Language?

    Well BBC at least I know that it is not just me that looks away when something is hard to talk about in therapy. It is good to know that I am not odd to do that. I tend to stare at the floor and really try and formulate an answer to a question or on second thought I hope the question will just go away

    I actually had a therapist that I disliked so much that I didn't look at her for almost two years. I knew the pattern on her floor area rug so well that I could draw it from memory

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    Re: Can You Read Body Language?

    lol nancy i don't know how you did it, watching a rug for 2 years! i don't think i could go back to a therapist i didn't like. it must have been torture.

    obviously looking away while talking to someone can mean many different things. so body language is very important and very diverse.
    ~ our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising each time we fall - confucius
    ~ it is the journey, not the destination, that matters
    ~ keep hanging on, the sun will come shining through for you again

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