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    Terminology

    Hi David and all,

    I am a new member. I am posting to ask a question if I could.

    I am wondering if there is a specific term for when people make mountains out of mole hills so to speak. I have seen alcoholics and drug users get themselves into a state of uproar and also bullies will do much the same thing I believe sometimes to justify what they are doing to someone.

    For eg, A male grabs a female who recently had surgery and hurt her over her surgical wound. The female slapped the male as a response to pain. The male now tells everyone he was assaulted and this female is dangerous.

    Is there a specific term or terms for this type of response from the male? I can see that the male has lost perspective and is unable to view this incident as it was, an accident both on his part and the physiological pain response from the female.

    Thanks to anyone who has an answer

    Cindy

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    A male grabs a female who recently had surgery and hurt her over her surgical wound. The female slapped the male as a response to pain. The male now tells everyone he was assaulted and this female is dangerous
    Cindy,

    Welcome to Psychlinks and thanks for posting an interesting question.

    I'll defer to those with clinical expertise to define the type of behaviour you've described, but from my perspective, someone who would act out this way is already or has the potential to be an abuser.

    If you are describing an actual person, has this person ever considered receiving therapy for his behaviour?

    It will be interesting to hear the comments of others.

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    I don't know that there is a single cause or diagnosis for this sort of behavior, Cindy.

    It may be, as TSOW suggests, a manifestation of control issues, possibly in an abusive personality.

    Alternatively, it may reflect an anxiety/stress response, or a reflexive defensive reaction to the perception of a threat from you, or some sort of "macho" self-esteem issue, or simply a general issue of poor anger management.

    I think we'd really need to know more about the individual(s) in question, the circumstances, and the prior history between the two individuals to say much more.

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    Re: Terminology

    Hi Steve and David,

    Thanks for your reply's.

    What I am trying to do is descirbe behaviour. Another example - if the female said something like I am going to kill those kids (I can see that there is no intent, I have said similar things with no intent) this man will use this as evidence to use against the female, she is dangerous, violent etc. I have heard of the term gaslighting but this covers a broad range of behaviours. I was wondering if there was a specific term. It is like he has no perspective (though I suspect he does know exactly what he is doing).

    I agree with you completely Steve this is emotional abuse and this particular man is a textbook classic case, isolating the female from friends and family, infiltrating her life very quickly and finding out information to use against her etc etc.

    I am an ex psychiatric nurse and currently finishing a psych major degree (this will not make me a psychologist though. I hope to become a specialist trauma counsellor in the next year or two. I am very interested in abusive relationships (Have been in one or two myself, but I have always managed to get myself out quickly, it is not the case for all women and men, and I can understand the effects of trauma bonding etc and have certainly experienced the effects of emotional abuse). I have seen this behaviour often with PD's and drug users, if there is not a term there probably needs to be one especially to descibe abuse suffered for the person involved and for legal reasons. I have ordered some books about gaslighting so will continue to look for good desciptions of different types of gaslighting.

    Thanks for replying, this is a wonderful site.

    Cindy

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    Re: Terminology

    I should probably add one more thing. I am trying to descibe behaviour, not diagnose a condition eg schizophrenics when they repeat what you are saying = echolalia. Just wondering how you would describe this particular behaviour. It's probably the psych nurse in me.

    Cindy

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    Thanks for your clarification. It does indeed sound as if the individual might be a classic abusive personality.

    You might find some of the books and other publications by Dr. Don Dutton of interest. He is an acknowledged expert on the subject of domestic abuse (he was actually a witness at the preliminary hearings of O.J. Simpson although I don't believe he appeared at the trial itself).

    I believe there have been suggestions made to the DSM-V project to include recognition of this behavior/personality constellation as a personality disorder.

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    Re: Terminology

    gaslighting???????????????

    is this an american\canadian term?? covering ???

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    Glad you asked NSA because I thought I was the only one that didn't know what that was I will be interested to hear what the response is?

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    and i'm so glad you joined me on this Nancy...
    the only gas lighting i know of is for me cooker... or in history books refferring to the real olden times. lol

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    I am completely with you on this one and very curious...glad you had the guts to ask as I didn't. I was just going to let it slide :

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