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    Question Effects of depression on relationships

    i was just wondering if there any books out there that are recommended that discuss the impact of depression on family life, on the relationship with your spouse/life partner, and how to overcome and heal from that impact?
    ~ our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising each time we fall - confucius
    ~ it is the journey, not the destination, that matters
    ~ keep hanging on, the sun will come shining through for you again

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    Re: Effects of depression on relationships

    BBC

    Did you click on the Books Tab at the top of the page right beside where it says New Posts on this page. I don't know if it has anything that you might be looking for but it is worth a look. Also, try going to Amazon and seeing what they might have is probably a good start also. They usually have some good things.

    Others might have some specific references but I don't...sorry.

    Good luck with your search

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    Re: Effects of depression on relationships

    BBC,

    Your query is one worth researching and would provide helpful resources to a lot of people.

    I did a search on Amazon using the keywords "depression family" and came up with some interesting possibilities.

    See if http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_b/...&Go.x=0&Go.y=0 works for you.
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    Re: Effects of depression on relationships

    The book "Nothing to Hide: Mental Illness in the Family" has pictures and a short profile of 44 families, each of which has a member with mental illness. It is not a self-help book but may be worth sampling.

    A 4-page sample of the book:

    http://www.familydiv.org/docs/article_bp.pdf (PDF file)

    The book is based on a traveling exhibit of the same name:

    http://www.familydiv.org/nothingtohide.php

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    Re: Effects of depression on relationships

    Correction: The book I mentioned, Nothing to Hide, has "in-depth interviews" not short profiles.

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    Re: Effects of depression on relationships

    one of the book titles i came across led me to a website www.depressionfallout.com. this site gives an interesting list of unofficial symptoms, which were confirmed to me to be quite accurate. i was a little shocked, as i never was able to see my behaviour through the eyes of those close to me.

    Dealing with depression fallout requires first and foremost an understanding that your depression sufferer has a common, treatable illness, and that its symptoms include the following. In the right-hand column are the ones doctors use to diagnose depression. In the left-hand column are the unofficial, but nonetheless real-life, symptoms that you observe, especially when you are alone together.

    UNOFFICIAL SYMPTOMS
    self-absorbed, selfish, unaware or unconcerned about the needs of others
    unresponsive, uncommunicative, aloof
    changeable and unpredictable; illogical and unreasonable
    manipulative
    pleasant and charming in public, the opposite at home
    makes inexplicable and sudden references to separation and divorce
    mean, belittling and critical
    increased use of alcohol and drugs

    OFFICIAL SYMPTOMS
    a persistent sad, "empty" or anxious mood
    loss of interest or pleasure in activities previously enjoyed, including sex
    sleep and appetite disturbances
    difficulty concentrating, remembering, making decisions
    feelings of hopelessness, pessimism
    irritability, excessive crying
    thoughts of death or suicide; suicide attempts
    chronic aches and pains that don't respond to treatment

    The unofficial list of symptoms explains why depressive illness undermines good relationships and disrupts families. Identifying, understanding, and learning how to cope with them is the first step in helping both the person you love and yourself.

    The book suggests ways to tell your spouse, lover, parent, or child that they may be depressed, and persuade them to seek a doctor for diagnosis and treatment.
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    Re: Effects of depression on relationships

    Regarding romantic relationships, this book may be relevant even though it is not directly about depression:

    The Highly Sensitive Person in Love: Understanding and Managing Relationships When the World Overwhelms You

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    Re: Effects of depression on relationships

    Frankly, some of those unofficial, possible symptoms ("selfish, unaware or unconcerned about the needs of others") best describe someone who is addicted to crack and willing to steal for their next high. Most people with depression are not narcissistic.

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    Re: Effects of depression on relationships

    i find that particular one to have been true for me. i didn't care about others' needs or feelings when normally i should and would have. it was all about me.
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    Re: Effects of depression on relationships

    i didn't care about others' needs or feelings when normally i should and would have. it was all about me.
    Maybe that's the problem with unofficial, non-clinical symptoms -- they don't differentiate between the conscious-free killer that tortures animals and the guy/girl that is so depressed that he/she can only think about the depression. There's also the risk of existing stigmas being used to label what is "selfish" and what isn't selfish.

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