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  1. How to Deal With Grief

    How to Deal With Grief
    What is grief?
    Grief is the normal response of sorrow, emotion, and confusion that comes from losing someone or something important to you. It is a natural part of life. Grief is a typical reaction to death, divorce, job loss, a move away from family and friends, or loss of good health due to illness.

    How does grief feel?
    Just after a death or loss, you may feel empty and numb, as if you are in shock. You may notice physical changes such as trembling, nausea, trouble breathing, muscle weakness, dry mouth, or trouble sleeping and eating.

    You may become angry - at a situation, a particular person, or just angry in general. Almost everyone in grief also experiences guilt. Guilt is often expressed as "I could have, I should have, and I wish I would have" statements.

    People in grief may have strange dreams or nightmares, be absent-minded, withdraw socially, or lack the desire to return to work. While these feelings and behaviors are normal during grief, they will pass.

    How long does grief last?
    Grief lasts as long as it takes you to accept and learn to live with your loss. For some people, grief lasts a few months. For others, grieving may take years.

    The length of time spent grieving is different for each person. There are many reasons for the differences, including personality, health, coping style, culture, family background, and life experiences. The time spent grieving also depends on your relationship with the person lost and how prepared you were for the loss.

    How will I know when I'm done grieving?
    Every person who experiences a death or other loss must complete a four-step grieving process:

    (1) Accept the loss;
    (2) Work through and feel the physical and emotional pain of grief;
    (3) Adjust to living in a world without the person or item lost; and
    (4) Move on with life.

    The grieving process is over only when a person completes the four steps.

    (Note: I don't like the word "over" used in connection with grief - grief is never entirely "over" - one never entirely gets "over" the loss of a loved one. However, one can eventually learn how to come to terms with the loss and continue with life - David Baxter.)

    How does grief differ from depression?
    Depression is more than a feeling of grief after losing someone or something you love. Clinical depression is a whole body disorder. It can take over the way you think and feel. Symptoms of depression include:
    o A sad, anxious, or "empty" mood that won't go away;
    o Loss of interest in what you used to enjoy;
    o Low energy, fatigue, feeling "slowed down;"
    o Changes in sleep patterns;
    o Loss of appetite, weight loss, or weight gain;
    o Trouble concentrating, remembering, or making decisions;
    o Feeling hopeless or gloomy;
    o Feeling guilty, worthless, or helpless;
    o Thoughts of death or suicide or a suicide attempt; and
    o Recurring aches and pains that don't respond to treatment.

    If you recently experienced a death or other loss, these feelings may be part of a normal grief reaction. But if these feelings persist with no lifting mood, ask for help.

    Where can I find help?
    The following list of organizations and web sites provides information and support for coping with grief:

    The Compassionate Friends
    A national, self-help support organization for those grieving the loss of a child or sibling.

    GriefNet
    A web site that provides information and resources related to death, dying, bereavement, and major emotional and physical losses.

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  3. lost in darkness

    i lost a little brother but mourned him like my own child. he slept in my bedroom while he was alive and when he stopped breastfeeding mom never came down at nich anymore so i took care of the diapers nightmares and sleeplessness. so in many ways he was my baby. it's been a year and it's still fo hard why cant i seem to get over this?

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    How to Deal With Grief

    A year is not a very long time at all when you are trying to some to terms with loss. I also believe that grief is not something you get over -- it's something in time you learn to accept, at least accept in the sense that you no longer fight against the fact that it happened, and eventually learn to accomodate in your life.

    You may find this article helpful: Grief and Bereavement in Accidental or Sudden Death.

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