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    Is short stature less attractive then tall?

    Hello,
    I am a 5'6-1/2" male. I have never had problems getting girls because I am considered very attractive.
    My problem is I feel I am not attractive at all because I am shorter then average.
    My problem is everytime I see a tall man or women, I start to feel inferior. I feel that they are automatically more physically attractive then me because they are tall.
    This may sound stupid or trivial but I have a very big problem with it and has lead to some depression.

    My main question is, are taller people more attractive physically then shorter people?

    My next question is, are there tons of beautiful women that will find shorter men just as attractive as taller men? Will the shorter man still get noticed by women?

    Thank you for your help and time. I just want to know that I am not less attractive then my taller piers. I want to be noticed besides just a pretty face or a great personality. I want to realize that I can be just as handsome physically as taller men.

    Thank you ;o)

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    Is short stature less attractive then tall?

    Personally, I don't think height has anything to do with attractiveness. For me, it's more about the personality of the person, and what that person brings to the table in terms of conversation and interest in the world around us.

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    Is short stature less attractive then tall?

    Yea, I understand the whole "personality" thing, and anyone can have a great personality if they practice it.

    My problem is I want to also feel that I am just as "Physically" attractive. Lots of people tell me I have a great personality, so I don't have to worry about that. I'm just feeling down about my physical appearance in that I am shorter then average.
    People tell me I have a handsome face and that I can even model, but in my mind, when I see a taller guy or gal, I feel inferior and automatically feel they are more attractive then me (physically speeking only).

    So, I guess I just want to know that a shorter guy can still look gorgeous physically even though he may not be tall, and that there are many women that will still notice a shorter man and feel that he is just as attractive as taller men.

    So, in summary, I just want to know that I am just as physically attractive as taller people, and that there are plenty of women that find shorter men just as attractive.

    Thank you again ;o)

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    Is short stature less attractive then tall?

    Hmm. Well, let's name a few men whose short stature hasn't seemed to dampen their appeal:

    Tom Cruise, Al Pacino, Dustin Hoffman, Georgio Armani, Doug Flutie, Martin Sheen, Denzel Washington, Richard Dreyfuss, Robin Williams....the list goes on. That's just a few of them.

    That should give you your answer. ;o)

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    Is short stature less attractive then tall?

    Yea, in a way. But it doesn't mean women find any of them attractive just because they are actors. There are more attractive people that are not actors then there are actors. People just notice actors because of the media and because they are on t.v.
    Most women I dated didn't even like Tom Cruise. I don't think it was because he's short. They just didn't find him attractive.

    If a person is a celebrity, they will automatically be noticed and look more attractive then if they were just a common person on the streets. That's a fact. That is why I never take celebrity height into consideration. It's an unfair advantage. If I were an actor i can bet my life that I would have women flocking to me just because of my fame and fortune. I could be 4 feet tall and still be attractive if famous enough. They love men with status, fame, power and what not.

    But unfortunately I am just a common person with no talent to become famous, so I just need to know that even if I am not famous that I am still attractive while walking in public despite my height. I want to know that Tall is not better then Short. I just want to feel just as handsome as anyone that has stature. Thats all.

    Sorry to go on about this. I suffer from it greatly at times. A lot of friends and family bring up celebrities but that is an unfair advantage that they have. They are noticed because they are in the movies and besides, in the movies it is really hard to tell how tall they are. Sylvester Stalone is 5'9" and in Rocky they had him where boots with heels and maybe shoe lifts.

    So I have learned never to compare myself with celebrities. They are too made up and fake. They rarely never look like how they look on t.v.

    So I just need reassurance that my height is still attractive and handsome to the opposite sex. Sometimes I feel I'm never noticed in public due to my height. I never see a girl look at my face, which is the quality I have. I don't know. maybe it is a phobia. As soon as I am around taller people, I have feelings of being inferior and less attractive. What should I do? How can I get over this? Is what I am feeling true? Should I feel inferior or less physically attractive?

    Thanks again ;o)

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    Is short stature less attractive then tall?

    Quote Originally Posted by bookstar
    So I have learned never to compare myself with celebrities.
    Now you just have to learn to never compare yourself to non-celebrities.

    Whatever you are, you are. Once you can accept that, you'll be truly content.

    It's not like there's anything you can do to change your height anyway, right?

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    Is short stature less attractive then tall?

    Heh. I used the names of celebrities because, if I told you of attractive men (who are of short stature) that I know, locally, it wouldn't have meant a thing to you. The celebrities are people you DO know, and can picture in your mind. Most are attractive men, each in his own way.

    Like Dr. Baxter said, height is not a thing you can change. It is a part of you. Therefore, to bemoan your fate for not being 6'3" is an exercise in futility. You need to accept yourself as you are, be thankful for the gifts you've been given, and quit worrying about what others might think. If you're a good person, a good conversationalist, and present a friendly, smiling face to the world, you will be found attractive, believe me. :o)

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    Is short stature less attractive then tall?

    I think it's an interesting question, and if you're looking for an opinion, I prefer a man who I can look in the eye and I'm 5 feet 6 inches. But I've dated men 5'3" and 6'0", in the end it just doesn't matter, there's so much more to person than what they look like. By the way, the guy I ended up marrying is 5' 7" and I love it, I can wear his jeans. ;-)

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    My height and how I view myself

    Hello,

    I am a 5'7" male living in North America. In this day and age, being my height I feel is too short and I feel I am not at all attractive physically to the opposite sex because of my height.
    At the same time, I am a very handsome man and I am in shape, yet I struggle very much on a daily basis with my height. I deliver soda products for a living and I see people every day and I am constantly comparing myself with the taller guys thinking I am inferior and not as attractive as they are. When I see a beautiful woman, I feel I am not good enough for her and that she would choose a taller guy over me.

    I have a feeling of not feeling attractive to women because of my seze. I feel women never give me the time or day because of it. At the same time I am not saying I will never attract anyone, but I feel to the majority I am less desirable.

    I guess I want to feel and know that this isn't true and that I am making all this in my head and that my height, for the most part (but maybe not to everyone) is just as attractive as being taller. I want to feel I am good enough for the women I am attracted to. I want to know I can attract women just as well as any other taller man out there.

    My mind is constantly telling me otherwise. I am so insecure that I cannot even look at a beautiful woman in the face. I feel I am not attractive to her based on my child-like size.

    can anyone help me? Are there any words of encouragement? Can someone help me finally put an end to the lies (if they are) that are in my head every day?

    Thank you for your help ;o)

    Aaron

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    Re: My height and how I view myself

    A superficial solution may be to wear Doc Martens shoes (my favorite brand). You will look and feel taller than Tom Cruise, that's for sure. When I went to buy my first pair of Doc Martens (just because they looked cool and were very popular), the sales guy told me he wears them since his girlfriend is taller than he is.

    Anyway, I'm 5'9" and I do understand where you are coming from. I would say though that anything that weeds out superficial people is a blessing in disguise, esp. with divorce rates being so high:

    Recent research has found that women are statistically more likely to be attracted to men of average height when looking for long term commitment while the opposite is true when a short term relationship is intended.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness
    Futhermore, height is usually not the biggest factor in physical attractiveness. Again, Tom Cruise (who is 5'7" in height) is an example of this.
    Last edited by Daniel; May 15th, 2007 at 05:57 PM. Reason: Automerged Doublepost

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