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A Few Characteristics of Emotionally Abusive Women
Domestic Violence UK
Aug 19, 2013

Society usually portrays women as the victims when it comes to any form of abuse, so many find it hard to believe just how emotionally abusive women can be.

There is a big difference between arguments here and there and someone constantly putting you down in your relationship.

This posts attempts to highlight a few characteristics of abusive women and in no particular order, they are as follows:

  • Emotionally abusive women need to feel that they are in control at all times.
  • They may be the girl who is constantly checking her boyfriend’s Facebook or email and asking him who every girl she sees him talk to is and how he knows them.
  • These women may quickly come to conclusions without asking to hear the man’s side of the story and make drastic decisions, such as moving out or breaking off engagements without warning.
  • Men have a natural instinct to provide and protect; abusive women will take jabs at a man’s ability to do so in order to keep them feeling as though they aren’t good enough; with phrases such as ‘I wish I married a rich man’.
  • Since men are often more sexually driven than women, an attack to a man’s ability to perform in the bedroom can gain control and fear of ever being able to find anyone better.
  • Women often use the threat of ‘no sex’ as a way to get what they want from men; this is a form of bullying and a form of abuse.
  • Abusive women will typically expect their needs to come first; wanting you to drop everything the moment they need you and become extremely upset when you genuinely care but cannot.
  • Many abusers will say things such as ‘I never said that’ and then try to get you to believe something else happened.
  • If you feel like you are on an emotional rollercoaster when around her, not sure if she’ll react happily to you today or angry the next (even in the same situations), you may be in an abusive relationship.
  • They are completely disrespectful and completely disregard your rights, feelings and opinions.
  • They thrive on emotional blackmail and frequently isolate themselves from their partners for no tangible reason.
  • They tend to have unrealistic expectations in the relationship i.e. nothing you do will ever be good enough for her.

Speak up when you feel the time is right and voice your concerns about how you are being spoken to or treated in order to come to an agreement (which may mean leaving the relationship).
While it can be tricky for many people, especially men, to open up and ask for help; if you think you are in an abusive relationship, start by talking to your friends and family.

Please Note:

Domestic violence is not acceptable and should not be tolerated whether the victim is male or female. Every person has the right to live a life free from violence.

If you are in an abusive relationship and requires an urgent response or needs in-depth support please contact the Men’s Advice Helpline on 0808 801 0327.

You could also find support organizations using our ONLINE DIRECTORY (UK).
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