I don’t think I have the energy to explain. It sums up to feeling more depressed than usual. It’s frustrating whenever you talk to someone about adulting and said person gets so hostile.
And then my friend freaked out on me (in FB Messenger) after I had asked what I had thought was a reasonable question in a Pug Group on Facebook. I have a Boston Terrier but my friend said it was okay to join the Pug Group because my Boston Terrier/Frenchie cross is Medium Pug size. He has a blast when he’s hanging out with all his buddies. There was a poll put up on the group wall and I asked if another question could be added to the poll.
Well, she seemed to assume I knew there was drama all week going on (in a Pug Group!?!) and when I said I didn’t she practically asked me if I was stupid/blind.
She said started off the conversation with this:
Apparently she just has a potty mouth/fingers when texting.
I told her how I felt triggered because, as I mentioned, my David has already gotten pissed at me for asking what I feel are reasonable questions. My tone is even and calm, I think. He just doesn’t like to deal with adulting because he’s been through enough crap for several people. Especially finances. But it’s imperative that we DO work on our finances. He needs to work on not being so defensive and hostile just because he is the one who needs to get more work. He has so many options, not just getting more students.
I rarely have arguments with either my husband or my friend. And it was messages, not talking on the phone/in person, so there was no tone except the one inside my head. Which wasn’t a very nice tone.
I’m willing to give her the benefit of the doubt. My husband apologized and said he didn’t mean the things he’d said, and that he just lost it on me trying to accuse me of blaming him for the lack of our funds.
He’s playing World of Warcraft again and he’s getting carried away again. I was very happy today that he spent some time with me outside. He still feels guilty, but there have been a few times in the last few months where he was unnecessarily angry or accusing of me of... I don’t know what...
It was very triggering. Somehow everything was my fault... Even though I wasn’t implying that “everything” was HIS fault. Even though it feels like I drained out all my veins for the amount of time he was sick. It would be nice if he could do the same for me.
I’m so tired of being the “Responsible One.” I want to be taken care of. Obviously David isn’t ready to help anyone, and barely interested in helping himself.
I just don’t know what to do. I’m not trying to push him into doing something before he’s ready. If I don’t say anything then I’m letting myself down. If I say something to encourage or ask him if he can do something, he flips like a switch from 0 to Broil...
Thanks for listening. Let me hear some encouraging words, maybe a wee pep talk. Or maybe post cute photos. lol
And then my friend freaked out on me (in FB Messenger) after I had asked what I had thought was a reasonable question in a Pug Group on Facebook. I have a Boston Terrier but my friend said it was okay to join the Pug Group because my Boston Terrier/Frenchie cross is Medium Pug size. He has a blast when he’s hanging out with all his buddies. There was a poll put up on the group wall and I asked if another question could be added to the poll.
Well, she seemed to assume I knew there was drama all week going on (in a Pug Group!?!) and when I said I didn’t she practically asked me if I was stupid/blind.
She said started off the conversation with this:
Apparently she just has a potty mouth/fingers when texting.
I told her how I felt triggered because, as I mentioned, my David has already gotten pissed at me for asking what I feel are reasonable questions. My tone is even and calm, I think. He just doesn’t like to deal with adulting because he’s been through enough crap for several people. Especially finances. But it’s imperative that we DO work on our finances. He needs to work on not being so defensive and hostile just because he is the one who needs to get more work. He has so many options, not just getting more students.
I rarely have arguments with either my husband or my friend. And it was messages, not talking on the phone/in person, so there was no tone except the one inside my head. Which wasn’t a very nice tone.
I’m willing to give her the benefit of the doubt. My husband apologized and said he didn’t mean the things he’d said, and that he just lost it on me trying to accuse me of blaming him for the lack of our funds.
He’s playing World of Warcraft again and he’s getting carried away again. I was very happy today that he spent some time with me outside. He still feels guilty, but there have been a few times in the last few months where he was unnecessarily angry or accusing of me of... I don’t know what...
It was very triggering. Somehow everything was my fault... Even though I wasn’t implying that “everything” was HIS fault. Even though it feels like I drained out all my veins for the amount of time he was sick. It would be nice if he could do the same for me.
I’m so tired of being the “Responsible One.” I want to be taken care of. Obviously David isn’t ready to help anyone, and barely interested in helping himself.
I just don’t know what to do. I’m not trying to push him into doing something before he’s ready. If I don’t say anything then I’m letting myself down. If I say something to encourage or ask him if he can do something, he flips like a switch from 0 to Broil...
Thanks for listening. Let me hear some encouraging words, maybe a wee pep talk. Or maybe post cute photos. lol