Hi everyone, I was just curious, are there any statistics or research that deal with "personal development" in relation to age? As in, some sort of objective representation of attainment of certain social and personal goals (i.e. getting a career, spouse, kids etc) in relation to people's age. I'm 23, and I feel like I have gotten absolutely nowhere with my life.
I know that's a pretty young age to say something like that, since I realize my life is still just beginning (or at least I will concede to that for argument's sake), but what I mean is that I do not feel like I have attained any of the "levels" that are normal to attain by my age, and therefore any further progression in my own development would be impaired, or at least lagging due to this, since I will have not gained awareness or fluency of certain "basic" laws of social interaction/integration by an age when it is expected of me to have done so.
Is this a valid concern to have? It feels like there's some cumulative age-appropriate experience points that everyone else has gathered that I haven't, and this is preventing me from being a "real" person. Has anyone else ever felt this way? Is there really a normal mode of progression for adult development? I know that everyone is different, but I was wondering if there are statistics that show what the majority tends to lean towards.
Sorry for any grammar errors I've made in this, I am really tired, but this is bothering me very much right now, it jumped out at me when I was reading about Adult ADD on Wikipedia (I know, self-diagnosis = bad) and saw the line "The difficulty [with organizing one's life] is not due to the ADHD person's direct behaviour, but usually more due to the simple things that the ADHD person will miss, especially when an adult of their age or experience should catch onto or know."
I know that's a pretty young age to say something like that, since I realize my life is still just beginning (or at least I will concede to that for argument's sake), but what I mean is that I do not feel like I have attained any of the "levels" that are normal to attain by my age, and therefore any further progression in my own development would be impaired, or at least lagging due to this, since I will have not gained awareness or fluency of certain "basic" laws of social interaction/integration by an age when it is expected of me to have done so.
Is this a valid concern to have? It feels like there's some cumulative age-appropriate experience points that everyone else has gathered that I haven't, and this is preventing me from being a "real" person. Has anyone else ever felt this way? Is there really a normal mode of progression for adult development? I know that everyone is different, but I was wondering if there are statistics that show what the majority tends to lean towards.
Sorry for any grammar errors I've made in this, I am really tired, but this is bothering me very much right now, it jumped out at me when I was reading about Adult ADD on Wikipedia (I know, self-diagnosis = bad) and saw the line "The difficulty [with organizing one's life] is not due to the ADHD person's direct behaviour, but usually more due to the simple things that the ADHD person will miss, especially when an adult of their age or experience should catch onto or know."