Caution: May be triggering.
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I haven't posted in a very long time.
Today was World Suicide Prevention Day, and it was quite triggering for me.
After years in a loveless, neglectful marriage, I had an episode of promiscuity a few years ago, and it ended with me being severely abusived and bullied at work. At the time, the only option that made sense for me to was to committ suicide, but I didn't. One reason was guilt over my failing marriage, and I knew that if I committed suicide, he wouldn't get my life insurance. The other reason is that I had fallen in love with someone else, and that love, that person, was the last shred of hope I held.
I've lost pretty much everything- my family. Both parents have passed away, and I can't have a relationship with my sister due to a long history of abuse. She refuses to ackowledge and respect my boundaries.
My husband left last year, and we're divorced now, which is a good thing. We're still friends.
I'm living on my own for the first time. I had gone straight from living at home with my mother to my husband.
I was treated for my PTSD and have gradually made my way back to work. But since I've been alone and circumstances have triggered me again this year, I was suicidal again in May. I wrote a note and had a plan. Each time I've reached that place, I don't really know how I claw my way back out. I reached out to people who I feel should be there for me, and I was rejected. It's a pain I'm not sure I can overcome, and as I've been trigggered over the last week (a few things happened at work), I've tried to reach out again, and it's been met with rejection again.
I'm left feeling like a fool for expecting things to be different. I'm tired of fighting this alone. The people I reached out to are aware of the trauma I experienced a couple of years ago, and it was a unique trauma that is not easily explained. I'm alone with it, because none of them will talk to me. Not being met with contact when I reach out for help is crushing, and I feel like people will only love me and support me when I'm doing well or living up to their expectations.
And as punsihing as the consequences of my last episode of promiscuity were, the isolation I'm experiencing and lack of contact are driving me to want to reach out in that way again. The person I fell in love with claims to love me, but isn't present. He's the one I want, but he is unable or unwilling to be a presence in my life. Again, the situation is unique, but I sit here feeling like I'm making excuses for him, like I have with so many others who've taken me for granted. I waited for over five years for my first husband to change, and the wait was in vain.
Talk is cheap, and I only feel his absence when I reach out. So I'm tempted, and I think to myself how little it would matter for me to spend a night entangled with someone to feel something, someone, some connection to someone who actually wants to be in the room with me. To hear a heartbeat and have that intimacy. It's never ended well in the past, and I do recognize the danger.
But I'm still alone.
*****
I haven't posted in a very long time.
Today was World Suicide Prevention Day, and it was quite triggering for me.
After years in a loveless, neglectful marriage, I had an episode of promiscuity a few years ago, and it ended with me being severely abusived and bullied at work. At the time, the only option that made sense for me to was to committ suicide, but I didn't. One reason was guilt over my failing marriage, and I knew that if I committed suicide, he wouldn't get my life insurance. The other reason is that I had fallen in love with someone else, and that love, that person, was the last shred of hope I held.
I've lost pretty much everything- my family. Both parents have passed away, and I can't have a relationship with my sister due to a long history of abuse. She refuses to ackowledge and respect my boundaries.
My husband left last year, and we're divorced now, which is a good thing. We're still friends.
I'm living on my own for the first time. I had gone straight from living at home with my mother to my husband.
I was treated for my PTSD and have gradually made my way back to work. But since I've been alone and circumstances have triggered me again this year, I was suicidal again in May. I wrote a note and had a plan. Each time I've reached that place, I don't really know how I claw my way back out. I reached out to people who I feel should be there for me, and I was rejected. It's a pain I'm not sure I can overcome, and as I've been trigggered over the last week (a few things happened at work), I've tried to reach out again, and it's been met with rejection again.
I'm left feeling like a fool for expecting things to be different. I'm tired of fighting this alone. The people I reached out to are aware of the trauma I experienced a couple of years ago, and it was a unique trauma that is not easily explained. I'm alone with it, because none of them will talk to me. Not being met with contact when I reach out for help is crushing, and I feel like people will only love me and support me when I'm doing well or living up to their expectations.
And as punsihing as the consequences of my last episode of promiscuity were, the isolation I'm experiencing and lack of contact are driving me to want to reach out in that way again. The person I fell in love with claims to love me, but isn't present. He's the one I want, but he is unable or unwilling to be a presence in my life. Again, the situation is unique, but I sit here feeling like I'm making excuses for him, like I have with so many others who've taken me for granted. I waited for over five years for my first husband to change, and the wait was in vain.
Talk is cheap, and I only feel his absence when I reach out. So I'm tempted, and I think to myself how little it would matter for me to spend a night entangled with someone to feel something, someone, some connection to someone who actually wants to be in the room with me. To hear a heartbeat and have that intimacy. It's never ended well in the past, and I do recognize the danger.
But I'm still alone.
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