Judger Questions vs. Learner Questions

[Daniel E.]

From The Choice Map & You in the book Change Your Questions, Change Your Life

We all ask both kinds of questions and we have the capacity to choose which ones to ask — moment by moment by moment.

Judger Questions include: • What’s wrong with me? • Whose fault is it? • Why are they so stupid? • How can I prove that I’m right? • Haven’t we been there, done that? • Why bother? Results of Judger Questions: • A mood of pessimism, stress, and limitation • A mindset that’s judgmental, reactive, inflexible • Relating with “attack or defensive” behaviors

Learner Questions include: • What do I want? • What works? • What are the facts and what can I learn? • What are my choices? • What action steps make sense? • What’s possible? Results of Learner Questions: • A mood of optimism, hope, and possibilities • A mindset that’s thoughtful, understanding, flexible • Relating that is connected and collaborative

Related website: InquiryInstitute.com

 

[Daniel E.]

Can questions lead to change? An experiment

All questions are ?loaded questions?; the...choice is how to ?load? them with presuppositions that will be useful.