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[Eye Stigmata]

Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build all these defenses, you build a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you. One stupid person, no different from any other stupid person wanders into your stupid life, you give them a piece of you, they didnt ask for it...

They did something stupid one day like kiss you or smile at you and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages, it gets inside, it eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness. so a simple phrase like "maybe we should just be friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts, not just in the imagination, not just in the mind, its a soul hurt, A real, ' gets inside you - and rips you apart, pain'

I hate love

 

[Retired]

I am sorry to hear about your experience, but would you not agree that the situation you've described refers more to a relationship failure than the effects of true love?

Perhaps one solution could be to limit the amount of one's vulnerability exposure until the relationship has become solidified with mutual commitment and trust.

The situation you describe sounds like the other person betrayed the trust you placed in them.

 

[Jazzey]

Love isn't horrible ES. But sometimes, we do get hurt. Have you ever heard:"better to have loved and learned than to have never loved". I wasn't able to find the source, but here are a few other quotes that I liked:

Say what you will, 'tis better to be left than never to have been loved.
William Congreve

Life is the flower for which love is the honey.
Victor Hugo

You get my point ES.

For the time being, you've learned a hard lesson - he wasn't the right one for you. The whole pleasure of loving someone is to give pieces of yourself, gradually (as Steve has already suggested) to that person. But sometimes, you have to kiss a few frogs before you find that real life partner...But it doesn't mean that you won't find that person. It just means it wasn't this one.

This past experience, as hard as it is right now, has probably given you a few lessons. So - what did you learn? What is it about this relationship that didn't work? Are there traits that you wouldn't necessarily want in a life partner? What traits would you want?

Every relationship offers you insight into who you are, into what it is that you want ES. So I hope that, when the pain subsides a little, you'll be able to look at this experience and think of a what you've learned about yourself. :hug: