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Positive Empathy (Muditā)

A Sanskrit term for positive empathy:


Muditā (Pāli and Sanskrit: मुदिता) means joy; especially sympathetic or vicarious joy, or the pleasure that comes from delighting in other people's well-being.

The traditional paradigmatic example of this mind-state is the attitude of a parent observing a growing child's accomplishments and successes. Mudita should not be confused with pride, as a person feeling mudita may not have any benefit or direct income from the accomplishments of the other. Mudita is a pure joy unadulterated by self-interest.

Oprah Winfrey & Maria Shriver discuss Menopause

During perimenopause, Oprah Winfrey had heart palpitations, listlessness, depression, and two years of insomnia that was misdiagnosed or ignored:

"No one ever suggested it could be menopause." ~ Oprah Winfrey

Oprah's symptoms abated with estrogen and progesterone treatments.

Oprah Winfrey and Maria Shriver say doctors are generally not concerned enough, knowledgeable enough, or do not screen enough for menopause. And so you have to advocate for yourself.

Winfrey and Shriver discuss menopause on a new health show, The Checkup, on Paramount's streaming service:


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Books on Mindfulness


Recommended Reading​

First Readings​

  • Breath by Breath: The Liberating Practice of Insight Meditation by Larry Rosenberg
  • The Magnanimous Heart: Compassion and Love, Loss and Grief, Joy and Liberation by Narayan Helen Liebenson
  • What the Buddha Taught by Walpola Rahula
  • Seeking the Heart of Wisdom by Joseph Goldstein and Jack Kornfield
  • Mindfulness in Plain English by Bhante Gunaratana
  • The Miracle of Mindfulness by Thích Nhất Hạnh
  • Loving Kindness by Sharon Salzberg
  • A Still Forest Pool by Ajahn Chah
  • Boundless Heart by Christina Feldman
  • The Four Noble Truths by Ajahn Sumedho
  • Mindfulness by Joseph Goldstein

Further Readings​

  • Three Steps to Awakening by Larry Rosenberg
  • Living in the Light of Death by Larry Rosenberg
  • The Noble Eightfold Path by Bhikkhu Bodhi
  • In the Buddha’s Words by Bhikkhu Bodhi
  • Heartwood of the Bodhi Tree by Ajahn Buddhadasa
  • Eight Mindful Steps to Happiness by Bhante Gunaratana
  • A Path with Heart by Jack Kornfield
  • The Middle Length Discourses of the Buddha by Bhikkhu Ñāṇamoli and Bhikkhu Bodhi
  • Food for the Heart by Ajahn Chah
  • Old Path, White Clouds by Thich Nhat Hanh
  • Stepping out of Self-Deception by Rodney Smith
  • The Mind and the Way by Ajahn Sumedho
  • Don’t Take Your Life Personally by Ajahn Sumedho
  • When Awareness Becomes Natural by Sayadaw U Tejaniya
  • Mindfully Facing Disease and Death by Bhikkhu Anālayo
  • The Heart of the Buddha’s Teaching by Thích Nhất Hạnh
  • Pure & Simple by Upasika Kee Nanayon

‘Grief is alive, wild, untamed’: How to support a partner who’s lost a loved one


Psychotherapist Megan Devine, who wrote “It’s OK That You’re Not OK” after losing her partner, Matt, said it’s important to meet the grieving person where they’re at.

You want to support them — not try to rid them of their difficult feelings. “We know on some level we can’t make this go away, but we are going to try, and that makes things come out sideways,” Devine told me. You absolutely can’t fix this for your partner, which should take some of the pressure off.

What you should do is accept their feelings, even if you don’t understand them. “The most powerful thing we can do is just bear witness without moving people from where they are,” said grief and trauma therapist Ajita Robinson.

“If I Wasn’t Poor, I Wouldn’t Be Unfit”: The Family Separation Crisis in the US Child Welfare System


"It is time to reimagine the child welfare system."

Key Recommendations​

Human Rights Watch and the American Civil Liberties Union call on federal, state, and local governments to take the following steps to reduce the harmful impact of child welfare interventions and strengthen and support families and communities to prevent child maltreatment:
  • Hold public hearings, including congressional hearings, to hear from families who are affected by the child welfare system.

  • Narrow the definition of child abuse and neglect. Prohibit the treatment of poverty-related circumstances, lack of financial resources, or substance use by parents or during pregnancy, without actual or imminent risk of harm, as factors that can trigger child welfare interventions.

  • Eliminate mandatory reporting requirements. Replace universal, centralized, and anonymous mandatory reporting with permissive, confidential, and decentralized reporting; give reporters and responding agencies the option to refer families directly to services in lieu of the government child welfare agency; and maintain records about the administration of this direct referral process separate from agencies responsible for investigating and evaluating allegations of child abuse or neglect.

  • Adopt a universal right for parents to quality pre- and post-petition counsel. Ensure the right attaches upon first contact with child welfare authorities and support contemporaneous provision of social work and support services to address immediate and collateral issues prompting child welfare concerns.

  • Require agencies to inform parents and children of their rights upon first contact to remain silent, to speak to a lawyer, and to refuse entry into the home absent an emergency or court order.

  • Prohibit drug testing of parents and pregnant people without prior written, voluntary, and informed consent or pursuant to court order.Legislatively create a right to decline a drug test unless ordered by a court. Prohibit caseworkers or courts from drawing any adverse inferences from the exercise of the right. Prohibit a parent’s drug treatment plans from being used against them in child welfare proceedings.

  • Require states to engage in “active efforts” to maintain family unity. In particular, require that child welfare agencies meaningfully assess and address:
    • Poverty-related barriers to reunification for child-welfare-involved parents, including the provision of financial support for transportation and costs associated with visitation, court hearings, mandated services, and other meetings.

    • Barriers to reunification for child-welfare-involved parents with problematic substance use. Refer parents to supportive, non-coercive, evidence-based services focused on harm reduction for substance use disorders, ensure parents have unimpeded access to quality substance use disorder treatment, and allow adequate time for relapse.
  • Improve data collection at federal, state, and local levels. Regularly publish data that can be disaggregated and commission expert studies on intersectional, persistent racial disparities in the child welfare system.

  • Acknowledge and meaningfully redress institutionalized racism and settler colonialism in child welfare policies and practices.

Anti-inflation, Pro-savings thread


As it turns out, consumers might be the guilty party in the inflation mystery. We've at least been aiding and abetting. "Inflation is coming from demand," says Wolfers.

In spite of inflation, demand hasn't really blinked. Companies have been raising prices and we have been paying them. In fact, in many parts of the economy, spending has been rising right along with prices.

We're not necessarily buying more because we have more money, though. Our collective savings has been shrinking and household debt has been on the rise. It's possible we're spending money we don't have to keep up with rising prices.

That is likely not sustainable. And when our buying slows down, Wolfers says, companies will start lowering prices to entice us to buy: Prices will fall and inflation will ease. But, until demand drops, companies will push prices up as much as they can. It's elementary.

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