Domestic violence, spousal abuse, child abuse - physical, sexual or emotional-psychological - it's all abuse and it's all destructive. See also Adult Survivors and Victims of Crime.
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This app from ADT seems to be the replacement:
https://www.fastcompany.com/90498121/this-free-safety-app-lets-domestic-violence-victims-secretly-call-for-help-during-lockdowns
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New online tool seeks to help women escape domestic abuse
CBC News
June 4, 2015
A new online tool was launched Thursday designed to let victims of domestic abuse know that help is available.
ShelterSafe.ca features an interactive map of shelters as well as a list of 24-hour crisis lines across Canada, said Lise Martin, executive director of the Canadian Network of Women's Shelters and Transition Houses.
"Every situation is different, but a woman who has made the decision to leave...
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DAHMW also offer a 24-hour crisis line...
Crisis Hotline
Call 1-888-7HELPLINE
24-hour hotline operated by staff and trained volunteers to offer information and crisis intervention to victims of domestic violence.
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Domestic Violence UK
Domestic Violence UK is a non profit organization set up to provide information and support online to victims of domestic abuse, by developing a community where we can learn from the experiences of each other.
It recognises domestic violence comes in many forms; not just the physical, but also emotional, psychological and sexual; and that it can be suffered by any member of society.
The main objective of this site is to provide victims of domestic violence with...
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Abusive Relationships: Resources
Basic Information
Introduction to Abuse
Abuse Defined
Types of Abuse
Domestic Settings of Abuse
Institutional Settings of Abuse and Hate Crimes
Recognizing Abuse
Effects of Abuse
Post-Abuse Vulnerabilities
Why Do People Abuse?
Why Do Adults Stay In Abusive Relationships?
Changing Attitudes About Abuse
If You Are An Abuser...
If You or Your Children Are Currently Experiencing Abuse...
Abuse - If You Have Been Assaulted or Raped...
If You Are a Third Party...
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Signs of child sexual exploitation 'being missed'
BBC News
Teachers, social workers and the police are missing the warning signs of children being targeted for sexual exploitation, a charity has said.
Barnardo's said children who were being groomed often appeared with unexplained gifts or started engaging in risky behaviour. They also tended to start skipping school or becoming disruptive, it said.
People working with children needed to be made aware of the "tell-tale signs", it added...
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The National Domestic Violence Hotline
Help is available to callers 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.
The Hotline serves as the only domestic violence hotline in the nation with access to more than 5,000 shelters and domestic violence programs across the United States, Puerto Rico and the U.S. Virgin Islands.
Hotline advocates are available for victims and anyone calling on their behalf to provide crisis intervention, safety planning, information and referrals to agencies in all 50...
“Psychologists refer to unpredictable rewards as “intermittent reinforcements.” I call them “the reason we date jerks.”
― Catherine Price
For victims of crime in the US:
https://childhelphotline.org/
https://ovc.ojp.gov/program/stop-elder-fraud/providing-help-restoring-hope
https://www.madd.org/get-help/victim-assistance
Canada:
https://antifraudcentre-centreantifraude.ca/scams-fraudes/victim-victime-eng.htm
https://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/fund-fina/cj-jp/fund-fond/abroad-etranger.html
https://ncadv.org/financial-education
Co-presented by NCADV and the National Endowment for Financial Education (NEFE), we are excited to share a series of six sequential webinars on financial education for survivors of domestic violence and the advocates who serve them. The series is offered as a full curriculum, or webinars can be chosen a la carte for those seeking to increase their skill set on a specific topic. Each 90-minute webinar provides essential financial literacy skills: from...
Re: "It doesn't lessen you as a person in any way."
Similarly, self-compassion is a way to avoid the trance of unworthiness:
https://self-compassion.org/test-how-self-compassionate-you-are/
https://self-compassion.org/category/exercises/
https://areomagazine.com/2019/04/26/why-we-join-cults/
...The most powerful reason why people join cults is that many don’t even realise that that’s what they’re doing...
Tragically, the very first thing that drew you to a cult is the thing that will keep you there. Whether it was sisterhood, an end to loneliness, a way to save the planet, an enemy to hate or a fresh start – the cult will, by subtle means, let you know that that thing you wanted from them can be taken away at any moment...
Domestic Abuse and Pets in a Pandemic
by Bruce Roney, President & CEO, Ottawa Humane Society
Jan 21, 2021
As an essential worker, I come to work each day and have throughout the health crisis. I feel safe doing so as my workplace has taken all the recommended steps and beyond for my and my co-worker’s safety. Moreover, when I leave work, I go to a home that is safe both emotionally and physically.
I know not everyone is so lucky. Not every home is safe. Experts in the field of...
Why children stay silent following sexual violence
by Kristin Jones, TEDTalks
Nov 13, 2020
Women with pets more likely to endure domestic abuse, study finds
Jun 8, 2017, CBC News
Women with pets are enduring domestic abuse longer and returning home sooner for fear their animals could be hurt, according to new research from the University of Windsor...
Researchers also found that three quarters of the people working in shelters know of women who do not leave at all, because they could not bring their animals with them...
"At times they call us and they do want to leave, but...
Yes. Especially when it's framed as humor and followed by, "Just kidding!" so you know full well it was meant to be hurtful. :(
No One Deserves to Be Abused
by Tina Blacksmith, Tiny Buddha
July 17, 2019
“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.” ~ Kahlil Gibran
You’re stupid. You’re a loser. You’re worthless. You will never amount to anything. You’re not worthy of love. These are things I’ve told myself throughout my life.
The experiences I had throughout my childhood led me to believe I was deeply unlovable. I thought...
Smart Home Tech Dangerous if Relationships Sour
by John Lister, infopackets.com
July 11, 2018
Researchers have warned that smart home technology could be used to aid domestic abuse. They've put together resources for people who could be threatened by abusive partners or former partners.
The list comes from University College London and follows a New York Times article detailing some of the way domestic abusers have turned smart home tech into a tool to further their abuse.
One...
David's words are "softer" than what I'm thinking and will avoid posting regarding your ex.
But you are only a victim if you allow yourself to be one. (Not as easy as it sounds trust me, but true)
This article is one I remember reading that was posted not long ago that I found really good. Maybe it can be of some help or comfort to you. It also addresses the victim issue.
You Can Look Through the Lens of Love or Fear
I think David would be able to find more if you needed
l was never a person who abused my children...l loved them and raised both of them as a single parent because my Ex was never home...When he was home he was a drinker who got verbally and physically abused me and the children were witness to his hate filled rants and came to my aid at times.
Once the marriage got to the breaking point, l sat and talked to them (as they were old enough ) and told them that we had to live separately, they chose to stay at home to go to school with their...
I am sorry this happen to you and that you are feeiling so alone and afraid. If you can talk to someone i know it is hard but talk to somene your trust and let them know Go to hospital and talk to emergency personal who are trained to help you ok The will treat you with kindness the team that deals with such things You need to have support at this time so please try to get some medical help for you. It took courage to post here and i am glad you did I hope you keep talking to us...
Consult the provincial and territorial legal aid services' web pages listed below:
British Columbia
Alberta
Saskatchewan
Manitoba
Ontario
Quebec
New Brunswick
Prince Edward Island
Nova Scotia
Newfoundland and Labrador
Nunavut*
Northwest Territories
Yukon
*The Nunavut Legal Services Board may be contacted as follows:
Maliiganik Tukisiiniakvik
P.O. Box 29
Iqaluit NU X0A 0H0
General Line (toll free) 1-866-202-5593
Poverty Line (toll-free)...
You are experiencing (or have experienced) domestic violence
Legal Aid
May 2016
Anyone in Ontario who is experiencing domestic violence can get a free emergency two-hour consultation with a lawyer.
What is domestic violence?
Domestic violence may include physical and sexual abuse. It can also include financial and emotional abuse. Some examples of domestic violence:
hitting, pushing, shoving, slapping or punching
forced sex
control over all the family money
insults...
I was looking at books on Amazon and thought of you Lonewolf.The kindle edition of this book is free right now.
It's called Life After Abuse,a practical healing guide for survivors.
Wow, such a valuable share. Thanks alot.
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Hi Joojams:
You are fortunate to have supportive parents. Basically, you should seek someone who is licensed and specializes in trauma, possible post-traumatic stress and rape survivors. The caveat is you need to in time feel comfortable and safe. As you began to trust this person, you will know when and when not to share your past. And, if the first person you see isn't right for you, feel free to see someone else. It's about finding the right fit/comfort zone for you. You will have...