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Parenting young children, kindergarten to pre-teens.
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Parenting Teens and Young Adults

Transitioning to adolescence means big changes for teenagers - it also requires an evolution in your approach to parenting - how to adapt to the teenage years and into the 20s.
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Behavior Problems & Conduct Disorders

Adjustment reactions, conduct disorders, aggressive behavior, and normal childhood behavior problems.
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When a Parent's "I Love You" Means "Do as I Say" By ALFIE KOHN, New York Times September 15, 2009 More than 50 years ago, the psychologist Carl Rogers suggested that simply loving our children wasn't enough. We have to love them unconditionally, he said - for who they are, not for what they do. As a father, I know this is a tall order, but it becomes even more challenging now that so much of the advice we are given amounts to exactly the opposite. In effect, we're given tips in...
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Raising Sons - Growing Up Male by David J. Baxter, Transition Magazine Spring 2003 Research over the past decade has revealed increasing evidence that boys and men in our society are suffering in a number of ways - depression, anxiety, difficulties with intimacy, and other problems are all too common - yet the socialization of males forces them into denial, repression, and displacement behaviors. Mary Pipher?s 1994 book, Reviving Ophelia, described today?s world as ?a look-obsessed...
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https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2022/nov/12/michelle-obama-golden-rules-of-parenting-the-light-we-carry ‘Is everyone doing this perfectly but me?’ Michelle Obama on the guilt and anxiety of being a mother - and her golden parenting rules "You can spend a lot of time dreaming, preparing and planning for family life to go perfectly, but, in the end, you’re pretty much just left to deal with whatever happens. You can establish systems and routines, anoint your various sleep, feeding and...
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https://forum.psychlinks.ca/threads/how-american-parenting-is-killing-the-american-marriage.27839/ There are doubtless benefits that come from elevating parenthood to the status of a religion, but there are obvious pitfalls as well. Parents who do not feel free to express their feelings honestly are less likely to resolve problems at home. Children who are raised to believe that they are the center of the universe have a tough time when their special status erodes as they approach...
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https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/parenting/a29500829/teenage-anger/ Yes, it’s difficult not to flip out when your teen yells or says something crazy. “But if you respond by raising your voice, you’re going to cause an escalation of anger,” Dr. Bernard says. Instead, if you lower your voice and speak more slowly, your teen may do the same because emotions are contagious... As much as possible, listen to your teen. Then, validate her feelings. “That doesn’t mean you agree with what...
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Until I had children, I thought Mr. Rogers was just boring. But watching the show with my own children ler me to appreciate how well designed it was for young children as well as school children. It held their attention without revving them up or startling them, and it tackled real world issues like divorce and death in a way that comforted rather than scared them and helped them to make sense of it all. Mr. Rogers himself was a genius who truly understood the mind of a child.
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6 Psychologically Damaging Things Parents Say To Their Kids Without Realizing It By Catherine Pearson, HuffPost Parenting 06/24/2021 Erase these common phrases from your parenting vocabulary. Parents don’t set out to say hurtful or harmful things to their children, but it happens. You’re tired, they’re pushing your buttons, and you’re frustrated after asking them for the 600th time to clear their plates or get out the door on time. You could also be inadvertently repeating things you heard...
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We read books to my daughter from birth, which enriched all our lives by Donna Ferguson, The Guardian March 6, 2021 ‘She is nine years old now and an avid book reader’: Donna Ferguson with her daughter Flora. Photograph: David Yeo/The Observer A difficult pregnancy meant the only item I dared buy for my unborn child was a book. When she arrived we read it to her every day. Nine years ago, I gave birth to a little girl. And now that little girl has grown into a bookworm. It began, as all...
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Attachment: The Key to Raising an Independent Child by Dr. Tali Shenfield, Child Psychology Resources Oct 14, 2020 Having a child show deep attachment can be a moving experience. It propels parents to model good behaviour, maintain their child’s trust, and generally be the best people they can be… But at the same time, many parents worry that this level of attachment may not be healthy for their child. In today’s culture, there’s an enduring myth that parent-child bonding somehow...
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Unless one has money to burn, the general advice is to always buy used vehicles. Even some multimillionaires will only buy used.
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A Radically Positive Parenting Technique: The Nurtured Heart Approach by Sweta Gupta, ADDitude July 30, 2018 Standard behavior modification approaches are designed to support adults in guiding energetic children with attention deficit disorder (ADHD or ADD) toward choices that will maintain harmony in homes and classrooms. The Nurtured Heart Approach® (NHA), created by therapist Howard Glasser in the late 1990s, is often considered “behavior modification.” But it is really a...
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Ensuring Your Child is Supported at School By Deborah Offner, Ph.D., NAMI May 14, 2018 At least 1 in 5 school-aged children is affected by a mental health condition. The two most common conditions among children and adolescents are anxiety followed by depression, but children can have other difficulties that affect their ability to fully take part in and benefit from their classroom experiences. These include attention deficit-hyperactivity, autism spectrum...
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I think any real life learning skills that a child can do is better then in classroom teaching. Why, because they are doing things hands on and they will retain that learning skill better then out of a book. They also gain pride in what they can accomplish joy of doing it on their own more then just learning from a class or a book just my thought though.
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The Problem with Yelling By Hilary Jacobs Hendel, NAMI: National Alliance on Mental Illness Feb. 07, 2018 “The problem with verbal abuse is there is no evidence,” Marta shared. She came for help with a long-standing depression. “What do you mean, lack of evidence?” I asked her. “When people are physically or sexually abused, it’s concrete and real. But verbal abuse is amorphous. I feel like if I told someone I was verbally abused, they’d think I was just complaining about being...
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Top safety rating given to 13 new booster seats, only 1 rated 'not recommended' CBC News November 21, 2017 Top rated models can be purchased for as little as $13 The Insurance Institute for Highway Safety says the vast majority of new booster seats released this year got top marks in terms of safety, and only one brand on the market today should be avoided. The IIHS says 13 of 16 new brands of car booster seat earned the safety agency's designation of "best bets," which means they...
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Why It's OK That Your Parents Are Jerks by Andrea Scoretz, HuffPost Canada August 9, 2017 About 10 years ago I got arrested for being drunk in public. Long story short, I was in a really bad state. I was severely depressed, drinking heavily, and couldn't see past the bottle in front of me. No one in my family was capable of helping during this time. They just didn't know how to deal with me. Neither did the psych nurse that came to see me in jail when I'd sobered up. She...
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Why Yelling at Children is so Harmful by Dr. Tali Shenfield, Child Psychology and Parenting Blog August 6, 2017 Though much attention has been paid to the harmful effects of physically disciplining children, until recently relatively little research had been done into the psychological impact of yelling. Many people ? experts and parents alike ? were therefore surprised when a recent study conducted by the University of Pittsburgh and published in the Journal of Child...
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Our Kids? Desire to Remain Little, Our Own Efforts Force Them to Grow Up Fast By Marina Krugolets, LMHC, LPC , World of Psychology February 6, 2017 Do you have a child who is afraid to grow up and wants to stay little for as long as possible? Does he or she complain of others calling him or her a ?Big Boy? or ?Big Girl?? Does your child talk to you about life moving too fast and not having enough time to play and just be a little kid? I?ve been getting this type of feedback from...
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Learning from Kids: How to Connect with Your Inner Child By Emily Waters , World of Psychology February 1, 2017 As adults we generally think that children learn from us in a variety of ways. That notion is certainly right because children see everything we do, and absorb all of these life lessons about how to behave, (hopefully like a decent human being) and even think in this world by observing us on a daily basis. Recent research has emerged which proves that even our emotional...
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Developed by the FORCE Society for Kids? Mental Health May 2016 This attached PDF document answers questions that parents may have concerning getting help for their child's mental health: Where do I start if I think my child is having difficulties? Where should parents look when searching for a mental health professional? What can I do while waiting to see a specialist? My child seems to need a lot of blood tests is there any way to make this easier for him/her? What are some things my...
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10 Ways to Encourage Independence in Children by Patricia Dimick September 23, 2015 Children are naturally curious, with an innate urge to know more about the world. From early ages, kids express their desires to do things, which gives them a sense of accomplishment. This early search for independence can be encouraged by loving and supporting them, teaching and showing, and allowing your children to act on their own and keep trying until they succeed. 1. Don?t Do It for Them! The...
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