How to Fix a Broken Heart focuses on two types of emotional pain—romantic heartbreak and the heartbreak that results from the loss of a cherished pet. These experiences are both accompanied by severe grief responses, yet they are not deemed as important as, for example, a formal divorce or the loss of a close relative. As a result, we are often deprived of the recognition, support, and compassion afforded to those whose heartbreak is considered more significant...
On Outgrowing Relationships & Trusting Your Instincts
by Hailey Magee
August 14, 2022
Some folks never feel the need to outgrow relationships because they were incredibly clear about their standards and their bottom-lines from the start.
Those of us who are in the process of breaking the people-pleasing pattern we will probably outgrow more relationships than most—because we’re letting go of the problematic behaviors that made those very relationships possible in the first place.
Dealing with a Big Disappointment: How to Soften the Blow and Move On
by Teresa Shimogawa, Tiny Buddha
Aug 2, 2022
In the middle of a storm, it is difficult to see any way out. But on the other side, we usually can recognize a silver lining—something we gained from the experience that enhanced our lives in some way.
When my husband unexpectedly died and left me a single mother to three young children, I could not conceptualize anything good coming out of it.
Yet, years later, I am here to...
Mindful Co-parenting - Helping Children Cope with Divorce
Retrieved March 2021
Most children grow up ignorant of marital problems, so divorce can be a huge shock, leaving their fragile minds hurt, angered and bewildered.
Splitting up with a loved one is an emotionally trying time for everybody involved. You have to deal with the practicalities of separation, the legalities of divorce, and your own internal struggle; all the while juggling right from wrong and trying to...
7 Things You Need to Know If You’re Going Through a Painful Breakup
By Lori Deschene, Tiny Buddha
Feb 19 2021
Last year my uncle died shortly after someone I love went through a pretty traumatic breakup. I love all my family, but I wasn’t really close to my uncle and didn’t know him all that well, so I was more grieving for my mother and aunt than myself.
As I bore witness to the deep pain around me, I started thinking about the expectations we often hold of people when...
How I Found the Courage to Leave an Abusive Relationship
by Iva Ursano, Tiny Buddha
Nov 4, 2020
“Do something today that your future self will thank you for.” ~ Unknown
My whole life has been filled with toxic and abusive relationships, starting with extreme physical and emotional abuse from my parents, right up to the last relationship that I left in 2013. Abuse—physical, sexual, emotional, and verbal—is all I’ve ever known.
My entire life. I knew it wasn’t normal.
Why Is It Over? 8 of the Most Common Reasons For Divorce Today
Oct 15, 2020
More than 780,000 couples divorce every year, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
With so many pairs parting ways, it’s not uncommon to wonder why. Every couple will have their reasons for divorce. But there are a few that you’ll hear again and again if you ask enough people.
So, what are the top reasons for divorce? Here are the eight most common responses from...
Great article! Our relationship expired a couple of years ago, so we were passing through tough time. She cheated, I started drinking, however I understood that we couldn't go on that way no longer. Filed for online divorce not to spend extra money for lawyer, she was happy about that and decided to move to Atlanta and build her career. As for custody - she said that she would come to see son every 2 weeks and to tell the truth, I was struggling myself not to blame her for everything...
Parental Alienation: It Only Takes One Falsehood to Ruin Lives
by Ivy Blonwyn, Full Heart, Empty Arms
August 22, 2019
The ancient Greek philosopher, Aristotle, was referring to the annual migration of swallows when he famously wrote, ‘One swallow does not a Summer make’. But just one little lie does Parental Alienation make.
‘Da called and told me he never wants to see you again’. That’s all it takes. One lie to a confused, hurting child. A lie repeated forcefully and consistently...
And then there’s the opposite... Where you hold off for as long as possible for a parent to figure out his spouse is toxic, but instead of agreeing he “takes sides” with her.
And then the kids have to protect themselves from both of their parents by severing ties.
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In my situation and my health (was right after the triple bypass) I was in no mental shape and anything I tried made things worse. Then when I gave up and left Quebec for good in 2004 it pretty much sealed my fate as far as what my kids thought of me. I just hope and pray that they do better with their kids than their mom and I did with them when all hell broke loose.
3 Tips for Parental Alienation Victims’ Partners
by Ivy Blonwyn, Psychcentral.com
August 16, 2018
The first date you have with a Victim of Parental Alienation, you automatically became a victim too. When you became their boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife, you clinched the deal, even though their children are not biologically yours.
The trauma may be a long time coming. At first, your relationship with your husband or wife’s vindictive ex may seem benign. Even cordial.
What Parental Alienation Is and Is Not
By Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC, PsychCentral.com
August 7, 2018
There is hardly a day that doesn’t go by in my counseling practice where someone brings up the concept of parental alienation. The problem is that the term is frequently misused. For some, it is a catch phrase used to describe any and all poor parent/child relationships. After all, it is far easier to blame the ex-spouse for the child’s poor behavior than it is to look at one’s self...
Easing a Broken Heart: 5 Ways to Reframe Rejection
by Marissa Walter, Tiny Buddha
April 18, 2018
"When the wrong people leave your life, the right things start to happen." ~ Zig Ziglar
The end of a relationship triggers many grief emotions, but when a couple breaks up because one person decides that it’s over, there is a very distinct pain: the sting of rejection. It doesn’t matter whether things had been difficult for some time or if the split came out of the blue; either way...
Shocked that Your Spouse Left? Here's the Secret to Recovery
by Martha Bodyfelt, World of Psychology
January 12, 2018
I?ve been thinking a lot about a growing trend in divorce ? one that seems to happen right after the holidays.
The case of spouse abandonment, aka when you thought the marriage was fine and you were looking forward to your future together, and then POOF! Your spouse, out of the blue, says those shocking words?
"I want out of this marriage."
How To Get Over A Guy And Move Past Emotional Wounds
by Liz Pardue-Schultz, YourTango.com
June 5, 2017
Wounds don?t heal with time; you just get better at living with them.
I never like to be the bearer of bad news, but unlike a scrape on the knee or a cracked femur, emotional wounds do not heal with time. It?s a nice, thoughtless clich? that people resort to when they feel like others need hope or comfort, but it isn?t true.
I get that all this sounds very pessimistic, but hear me...
That's a difficult question to answer without knowing the circumstances of your divorce, and the reasons he hasn't spoken with you since then.
Could you get in touch with one of his family members? You mentioned adult children...
There is a lot of advice on the net and off the net on this topic and some of it might be interesting to hear/process.
It is helpful to remember that when it comes to personal or intimate relationships. there is no "one size fits all" guidance that could be employed. You need to take into consideration many other factors, that might not be relevant to anybody else, but you. This is why it takes a lot of time for people to analyse their relationships or to get anything out of psychological...