Genesis
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Hello,
This time I've got a question not directly concerning myself.
My boyfriend has DID, we more or less "found out" about it about a month ago. He didn't realize it before and now it is very hard for him because he doesn't know how to behave. I read as much as possible about DID so I can understand him and the others - I got to know them as independant persons so it is not too hard for me to still see them as individuals. But I also see that they are connected and everyone of them has got a special area he (or she) operates in. But now that the abuse is over and the areas are more or less gone, some of the persons go, too but some are still there and live independantly. They come and go and my boyfriend doesn't know how to control it.
Now we tried something and it seems to work.
Two weeks ago we tried some kind of "imaginary safe-place travel", I don't know what it is called in English. He imagines his body as a big house where all his inner persons and himself live in and everyone has his own room. Also, there is another room with many drawes at a wall where he can put his memories into and mark them with colors - one color he likes for good memories and one color he doesn't like for the bad ones. The drawers can be locked and the key is hidden somewhere only he knows.
It worked quite well and I thought, if he has a connection to his inner persons - as they all have been part of himself once - why should't he contact them? So I told him to go to the drawer-room and than step out of it onto the corridor and look for the door of a special person. This person is a boy that is always very afraid when he comes and we wanted to make him feel more safe and less alone. So he went there and talked to the boy and gave him chocolate and when the boy came and was "active" the next time, he remembered the meeting and knew exactly what my boyfriend looked like. He was very happy about it and seemed to be relieved.
Now my question: Do you think this is a good way for interacting with the inner persons? I'm a bit afraid my boyfriend might get lost in this "inner world".
Also, how active should the other persons be, should one be "selfish" and try to be there as often as possible or should one let the others be there as often as they need it, too?
Does anyone here have similar experiences?
This time I've got a question not directly concerning myself.
My boyfriend has DID, we more or less "found out" about it about a month ago. He didn't realize it before and now it is very hard for him because he doesn't know how to behave. I read as much as possible about DID so I can understand him and the others - I got to know them as independant persons so it is not too hard for me to still see them as individuals. But I also see that they are connected and everyone of them has got a special area he (or she) operates in. But now that the abuse is over and the areas are more or less gone, some of the persons go, too but some are still there and live independantly. They come and go and my boyfriend doesn't know how to control it.
Now we tried something and it seems to work.
Two weeks ago we tried some kind of "imaginary safe-place travel", I don't know what it is called in English. He imagines his body as a big house where all his inner persons and himself live in and everyone has his own room. Also, there is another room with many drawes at a wall where he can put his memories into and mark them with colors - one color he likes for good memories and one color he doesn't like for the bad ones. The drawers can be locked and the key is hidden somewhere only he knows.
It worked quite well and I thought, if he has a connection to his inner persons - as they all have been part of himself once - why should't he contact them? So I told him to go to the drawer-room and than step out of it onto the corridor and look for the door of a special person. This person is a boy that is always very afraid when he comes and we wanted to make him feel more safe and less alone. So he went there and talked to the boy and gave him chocolate and when the boy came and was "active" the next time, he remembered the meeting and knew exactly what my boyfriend looked like. He was very happy about it and seemed to be relieved.
Now my question: Do you think this is a good way for interacting with the inner persons? I'm a bit afraid my boyfriend might get lost in this "inner world".
Also, how active should the other persons be, should one be "selfish" and try to be there as often as possible or should one let the others be there as often as they need it, too?
Does anyone here have similar experiences?