I think I need help. I don’t really know what I need to say and I never really said any of this to anyone so I think I’ll say it and hope it makes me feel better.
I’m in my late twenties now and having problems coping with life.
My dad died when I was seven I don’t remember or know anything about him (my mum never really spoke about him) – I don’t know what it’s like to have a dad. All I have are a set of photos of the four of us in the garden taken especially because they knew he was soon going to die of cancer. I was brought up by my mother and older sister – I was well looked after, never wanted for anything. Though I was never shown any love I was never hugged, kissed or talked to unless I had done something wrong. My mum never showed any interest or support in anything I did. I don’t want to sound ungrateful many have had it much worse and it must have been difficult for my mum to lose my father. I don’t see or speak to my mother or sister anymore, and they never call me.
I suffered from depression all the way through high school. I had problems making friends with others. I tried to fight it but it kind of beat me.
I still managed to do well in my studies – I worked obsessively hard almost every hour of the day to take my mind off my problems. This got me a first class degree – highest grade in the year. It’s then that I met my now girlfriend and immediately moved away with her so I could do an MA. At the end of the first year I had a nervous breakdown. I completely folded inside myself and lost what little self confidence I had. I quit the course and move back to my hometown. It took me three years to recover. My girlfriend supported me all the way through this, I don’t understand why.
She’s tells me again and again that she loves me and would do anything for me and she wants to marry me. Problem is I don’t feel anything for her, I don’t think about her and I don’t miss her when I work away from home. I don’t feel anything for anyone. I have serious social problems I can’t mix with groups of people and I can’t make any friends, I have no friends. I guess my girlfriend is my only friend but I don’t care about her. I think she is the only person who slightly knows me, but I don’t think she knows me very well.
The only feeling I have these days is lust which makes me feel disgusting about myself. What I really want is to feel love, I want to fall in love and have a family. But how can I when I don’t feel love. How could I be a dad when I don’t even know what a dad is. I don’t even know what my problems are so I don’t think I can solve them. Maybe it’s all in my head and I’m a perfectly normal person I just don’t know. I just needed to put this somewhere because I need to talk to someone and I feel like I have nobody.
I’m thinking about leaving my girlfriend in the hope of meeting somebody and falling in love with them I know this is might be the biggest mistake of my life but something inside tells me it’s right. I’m very scared of being on my own forever.
waif
I’m in my late twenties now and having problems coping with life.
My dad died when I was seven I don’t remember or know anything about him (my mum never really spoke about him) – I don’t know what it’s like to have a dad. All I have are a set of photos of the four of us in the garden taken especially because they knew he was soon going to die of cancer. I was brought up by my mother and older sister – I was well looked after, never wanted for anything. Though I was never shown any love I was never hugged, kissed or talked to unless I had done something wrong. My mum never showed any interest or support in anything I did. I don’t want to sound ungrateful many have had it much worse and it must have been difficult for my mum to lose my father. I don’t see or speak to my mother or sister anymore, and they never call me.
I suffered from depression all the way through high school. I had problems making friends with others. I tried to fight it but it kind of beat me.
I still managed to do well in my studies – I worked obsessively hard almost every hour of the day to take my mind off my problems. This got me a first class degree – highest grade in the year. It’s then that I met my now girlfriend and immediately moved away with her so I could do an MA. At the end of the first year I had a nervous breakdown. I completely folded inside myself and lost what little self confidence I had. I quit the course and move back to my hometown. It took me three years to recover. My girlfriend supported me all the way through this, I don’t understand why.
She’s tells me again and again that she loves me and would do anything for me and she wants to marry me. Problem is I don’t feel anything for her, I don’t think about her and I don’t miss her when I work away from home. I don’t feel anything for anyone. I have serious social problems I can’t mix with groups of people and I can’t make any friends, I have no friends. I guess my girlfriend is my only friend but I don’t care about her. I think she is the only person who slightly knows me, but I don’t think she knows me very well.
The only feeling I have these days is lust which makes me feel disgusting about myself. What I really want is to feel love, I want to fall in love and have a family. But how can I when I don’t feel love. How could I be a dad when I don’t even know what a dad is. I don’t even know what my problems are so I don’t think I can solve them. Maybe it’s all in my head and I’m a perfectly normal person I just don’t know. I just needed to put this somewhere because I need to talk to someone and I feel like I have nobody.
I’m thinking about leaving my girlfriend in the hope of meeting somebody and falling in love with them I know this is might be the biggest mistake of my life but something inside tells me it’s right. I’m very scared of being on my own forever.
waif