Memories that trigger depression ?

[[talon]]

Hi, I haven't been here in a realllyy long time.

First of all, let me say that I was doing well, but then a lot of things have happened.

In the past year, I've been in two relationships that I've gotten my heart broken...

The issue that I am having is that I rely on people too much. I don't have that many friends that I really trust, so when I have a boyfriend we start off friends and then when were dating I tell him everything and rely on him to make me happy, and then he's gone (AKA falls for someone else and then dumps me).

People always tell me I need to "love myself" but I don't really know where to start.

Right now, I am trying my hardest to move on and forget about everything that's happened, but these thoughts and memories keep re-entering my mind, and everytime they do, I feel pain and a lack of motivation... like I'm sinking... or like I have no one in the world that cares about me, and I wish it'd stop.

It's so easy to tell me to just not think about it. I'm not trying to think about it. It just enters my mind, and I feel so helpless.

Advice?

 

[forgetmenot]

It is hard because the emotions come out of the blue sometimes. You are grieving only natural you have loss someone you cared about and who you thought care about you. I think moving on is so hard but maybe with therapy you can start liking yourself again. With therapy you can examine what it is that maybe makes you want to depend on someone so much and why you need them to make you happy. I agree one must like themselves in order to get strong so that when in a relationship it can be a two way street not all taking and no giving I hope you are able to get some support so you can move forward more easily take care

 

[busybee]

Hi Talon, I am sure at some stage we have walked the path together. I like you seem to need to rely on another person to define my happiness. That seems to really scare off potential partners. It is right that you need to look within and find the person of who you are. What are your interests and passions. It is a lot of responsibility to place your happiness on another person. What makes you be you. What lights up your smile and gives you joy and laughter. What lights your passion, what motivates you. As I said before I too am going down this road.

Dont forget from every experience, be it negative or positive we learn something that we did not know before. Dont look back, walk forward and reach for the stars.