New Graduate Needs New Behaviors

[mustangkelli]

I am a 55 yo female who just graduated from a professional program. During the years of school, undergraduate and graduate, I developed some coping behaviors that don't appear to be that flattering. These have begun to interfere with interpersonal relationships. Not only am I not happy with myself for these behaviors but they now have the potential for interfering with a new profession.

I found this website by looking on the internet for some ideas, help, discussion, etc.

 

[David Baxter PhD]

Welcome to Psychlinks, mustangkelli.

When you're ready, start a thread in the appropriate forum here and tell us a bit more about the coping behaviors that concern you.

 

[Jazzey]

Welcome to PL, Mustangkelli. :welcome:

 

[Andy]

Welcome Mustangkelli:beer2:

 

[NicNak]

:hithere: MustangKelli! :welcome: to Psychlinks!

 

[mustangkelli]

Thank-you for the welcomes. Thank-you for the comment about posting when I am ready to discuss. This is very hard.

I have identified two major problems that interfere:

1) By trying to portray myself as confident I come across instead as arrogant, deserving, and as putting people down. None of which I actually feel and am surprised when I am perceived in this manner. To make matters worse I then shut-down emotionally, better I guess to have no emotion than to be perceived in a manner that is not really you.

2) I react too strongly to things I disagree with. Usually the foundation on which I disagree is sound, I just disagree too strongly.

The behaviors are self-destructive and the pain they cause is self-destructive. :thankyou2:

 

[the sister]

welcome