gooblax
MVP
I think I've finally figured this out: the reason that I keep feeling a need to punish myself (be it via self injury or insults) is because it's the only way I can offset the weakness of being affected by negative emotions. When it's me, feeling slightly anxious/sad/angry is weak and so punishment is required to stamp that out and prove that I'm tougher than that. Wanting to talk about my feelings is much weaker, particularly when those feelings shouldn't be a big deal and aren't even slightly serious. If I want to say something then there has to be an offset to allow it. It's not really acceptable, but if I'm going to do it then there has to be a price.
Theoretically I know this isn't working very well and isn't helpful, but there's no practical way to change anything. It's a closed loop.
I'm fed up with doing minor self injury almost every day now, fed up with thinking about this stuff, just entirely bored and sick of the bullshit, but can't see a way out of it.
Theoretically I know this isn't working very well and isn't helpful, but there's no practical way to change anything. It's a closed loop.
I'm fed up with doing minor self injury almost every day now, fed up with thinking about this stuff, just entirely bored and sick of the bullshit, but can't see a way out of it.