Problem with my parents

[Pandufier]

Hi everyone, I'm new to this forum and I need help.

I'm Indian and everybody know indian parents how they are always one your back on studying and stuff. So i'm 13 and my school district is different from most that i can choose what highschool i go to depending on what i want to major in. I was extremely smart in elementary, but lately i have gotten lazier and lazier. And because of that i wasn't able to make the highschool i wanted to get in. My parents think i dont care but i somewhat do. Now after that, at least once a week during dinner they lecture me about an hour on how i dont study, work hard, and most importantly i lie. They believe in the whole karma thing and i do to, but its getting kind of annoying. I cry during the talks, but my mom says that its stupid an doesnt help. Also my sister has been telling me that some of my friends make fun of me for no reason. I kind of know that and im trying to change.The worst thing is that cant stop being lazy and i dont know what to do?

PS i know that how im presenting this may be a little hard to understand but plz can you respond

 

[rdw]

Is there a counsellor at your school or is there a teacher with whom you have a close relationship - someone you can talk to? I would suggest that you tackle one problem at a time. Let's look at your difficulties with school first. With help, try to look at why school is becoming difficult for you. For example why did you want to attend that high school? What are you interests? Do you have a plan for after high school - college, university, possible career choice? None of these answers need to be written in stone but they are a place to start.
I am going to tell you that it is okay to cry - perfectly normal as a matter of fact. And from what I know of 13 year olds one day it is your turn to be made fun of and the next day it is someone else. I know it is hard but the more you talk and learn about yourself the happier you can be.

 

[forgetmenot]

I too think perhaps you are finding that school is hard for you and that you are not being lazy

I do hope that you can get some help at your school tutoring councilling as stated to help you feel less stressed.

It is okay to cry hun when no one is looking you have a good cry ok taking a shower or whenever you don't feel like you will be judged

It helps to release some of the pain inside. Is there any outside interest you have that you can use to help decrease your stress like a sport or art or music

You are 13 and that in itself is a hard age , hormones changes ect

You can only do the best you can do hun so try not to be too hard on yourself ok hugs

 

[ARegularPerson]

Hello,
I'm 13 and I have trouble with my parents. My dad always thinks he's right even though I've proven him wrong many times before. My dad is always telling me how I should go outside instead of playing video games. I'm very active, run track, sing in choir, I'm a strait A student. I spend 7 hours at school plus 1 1/2 to 2 hours after school at track. When I get home I just want to relax, so I sit down and start up my gaming system and play a few war games with my friends for say 30 min every 2 or 3 days, then my dad comes home he yells at me for spending so much time on my video game. But that's the thing I DONT spend that much time playing video games then my dads always yelling at me for playing them. Also I have chores so I do those and I may try to help out a little to make him happy, but instead of telling me thanks he yells at me for not doing them right or lectures me how I could do better. I've had it, he drives me to tears about 5 times a week and I'm a boy and I have a pretty strong mind. But he breaks me. What really hurts is how I'm his son and he's always comparing me to others. I hate it, I feel so unloved, please help me.
Thanks anything helps I just can't take it I'm always depressed because of him, thanks

 

[MHealthJo]

I am so sorry that your dad treats you this way.

A person like your dad usually has lots of issues and emotional problems which probably come from his own childhood. He was most likely not treated right and has no idea what is right, or even if he does, does not know how to do it.
He probably lives in pain or fear.

This does not make it okay though, and I am so sorry you are dealing with it. That is not fair.

What happens if you try to stand up for yourself? Does he get more scary or more threatening?