Sky Abelar
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I am sorry you feel like you are being bullied here but as a victim of bullying myself how would i have changed me when i did not have those skills
The bullies yes they need help because i do believe they too are in pain or else why would they attack someone so weak.
What you have said is confusing to me i try to understand you want to help both parties here i agree to that statement but Perhaps in you head you feel like you were to blame for those attacks when in fact the blame was never yours
You did nothing but be yourself even if it was a self with low confidence you did not deserve to be attacked.
YOU did not ask for it you did not attracked it the bully yes saw a person that could not fight back but that was not your fault.
I am getting confused but i know noone ever is to blamed for being harmed.
Adults can find therapy and can help themselves aftr the fact but that too takes so much toll on them to relive a past of pain.
I think if physical harm or constant emotional pain in being put on someone then consequences for that behavior must be made or how else will the bully ever change Treatment yes definetly but consequences for their behavior it has to be there
Hi Eclipse,
Please try not to make assumptions. When I said that I attracted bullies, that does not mean that I was at fault, or to be blamed, or could have avoided it as a child.
When I was a child, however, I did feel that I was being picked on because there was something bad about me -- of course this was not true. I continued to have problems with this throughout my life until I healed the emotional wounding that happened to me as a child. When I healed, and learned to love myself for who I am, I no longer "attracted" negative people.
What I am saying here, only has to do with the law of attraction. It is science. Cause and effect. Energy attracts like energy. If I feel bad about myself, I will attract circumstances that confirm it -- this is very much like living life in a state of hynosis. This in no way let's bullies off the hook. They should be held responsible for what they do.
Neither did I mention reliving horrible things. I can honestly say that I can't remember most of the abuse I suffered from my parents as a child. I only can remember what happened after age 8. I never had to try to re-live any of it -- that is not necessary at all.
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Eclipse, I forgot to answer your question -- "as a victim of bullying myself how would i have changed me when i did not have those skills?"...
You could not have changed a thing, and I never suggested you could have. I know when I was bullied as a child, there wasn't a thing I could do. It was only, as an adult that I came to have the choice to accept healing and grow. It was only after I healed my emotional wounding that I realized that I was not at fault for what I suffered as a child. What caused me to seek healing was simply that I was miserable and couldn't continue with my life as I was. I think I read every self-help book I could lay my hands on. I went to therapists and new age healers, and psychiatrists. I was determined to stop the suffering and that's what I think has to happen with anyone. They must want to be happy and have a good life so much that they will pursue it like a hungry jaguar stalking it's prey.