What do you think of me?

[No Name]

People tell me I'm shy, quiet and boring.

I'm a listener. I talk when I have something relevant to say.

I only have conversations about anything that's not about me (new, sports, school, careers, etc. -- nothing about my life, experiences and so on). I don't talk about myself because there is nothing to say. I find myself boring and so do other people.

In small talks, I barely have anything to say. But, whenever I try to engage a conversation, I feel like I'm interrogating the person. I often ask a lot of questions.

I think I maybe socially awkward. Sometimes, I say the most inappropriate things followed by an awkward silence. I also say things that people often take out of the context (usually something that's sexual).

I can't seem to hold a conversations if I'm alone with only one person. I seem to talk more (be at ease) with 2 or more people in the conversation. I don't feel comfortable having a one-on-one chat with another person. I don't know what I feel this way.

What do you think? What can I do about it?

 

[Thoraxe]

i know how you feel as i feel your pain just dont become overwheled by it and try harder to talk to other people or you might turn into me where you have a hard time getting friends and everybody hates you for your problem just make sure that you at least stay positive and if it bothers you try talking to your family about it (staying positive will work only for a certain period of time before you start disbelieving it)

 

[forgetmenot]

There is nothing wrong in being a listener an observer you tend to take in more and learn more about people that way. If you are feeling socially uneasy then try taking self esteem classes or maybe just involving yourself in more group activities. Not everyone is the same some people are just more shy than others. I think just getting out more in social settings will help and if not talk to your GP about maybe getting something for your anxiety if it is needed at all. take care

 

[g-scared]

Its good to talk about yourself and your feelings. I learned this from therapy I guess. I used to be really quiet, but after some sessions I just let go and now, sometimes, I get these enormous desires to talk to people. Its good for making friends I guess... but of course I only talk about things when they are relevant.

Its sort of like a bottle neck, but I think if you get unstuck then you'll start talking.

Good luck.
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