Worry

[Curious]

I take my medicines regular and they help to a point, but the problems keep coming. It can get on ones nerves and possibly overtake ones emotions. I am one who is extremely emotional and will have a heart to heart talk with my doctor about my emotions. I have been to the mental behavioral center several times and it gets good for a while and then bad. I am extremely tired of worrying and serious negative thoughts have entered my mind. I love my wife but her Lymphedemia is a worry to me as well.

With that said, how much worry is to much worry? Suicide comes to mind. I want some peace, for I am only human. high strung

 

[Retired]

Do you have other family members to help you with caring for your wife? Do you have someone coming in to help with housework, and her personal care, or is your wife independent for personal care at this time?

Do you have a spiritual support system...pastor or other spiritual advisor?

Suicide comes to mind. I want some peace, for I am only human.

I understand how these stressful situations can wear a person down, especially when it seems there is no one else to share the load of work and to share the emotional strain.

Do you find these thoughts of suicide seem to be more or less frequent in recent weeks? Did your thoughts ever evolve into forming a suicide plan?

Have you discussed this with anyone in your local support network?

 

[Curious]

My friend Steve,
I am the only helper she has. Her doctors have destroyed her legs and the bottom of her feet plus make her a drug addict with her medicine and there is nothing we can do. She now is going to a wound specialist and is awaiting new wrappings hopefully that will help her. Her pain alone hurts me greatly. No we do not have any friends to help. It does get on my last nerve I will say. Thanks for caring. high strung

 

[Retired]

The thing is, no one can be a 24 hour a day care give for a loved one, because eventually it results in burnout.

There are a number of resources available for caregiver support. Do a Google search using the search terms "caregiver support" (without the quotation marks)

I am still concerned about your earlier statement about thoughts of suicide, which we here on Psychlinks are perfectly comfortable in discussing.

Further to what you wrote earlier,

Suicide comes to mind. I want some peace, for I am only human.

I would like to know:

Do you find these thoughts of suicide seem to be more or less frequent in recent weeks? Did your thoughts ever evolve into forming a suicide plan?

We're here to help, and sometimes discussing subjects that may seem difficult or even considered forbidden subjects like openly talking about suicidal thoughts, can often help to lighten the load you are carrying in your mind.

 

[Curious]

Steve,
I am a coward when it comes to suicide. It would be easy for me because I once a alcoholic and a drug user. I heard if one goes back to these happing's they will have the same bad health numbers as when they started. I have been dry for thirteen years now. I am a diabetic, sugar is not good for me, I would be dead within six months. I will look up (Care givers without the Quotation marks). Thank you for what you do. These similar threads are great to read. high strung

 

[Retired]

I have been dry for thirteen years now.

Congratulations on staying sober for thirteen years. I am sure it has taken a great deal of courage and conviction on your part.

Do you still have a sponsor that you can reach out to during these difficult times?

I am a coward when it comes to suicide.

I see it differently. I see your resolve as another demonstration of your true courage, in the same way that you maintained your sobriety.

Suicide is never an answer to problems that can always be solved. The solution may not always be evident, which is why talking to others, reaching our for support allows others to view your situation from a different perspective. They can then present you with options you may not have thought of.

 

[Curious]

Steve,
God. high strung

 

[Daniel E.]

The thing is, no one can be a 24 hour a day care give for a loved one, because eventually it results in burnout.

There are a number of resources available for caregiver support. Do a Google search using the search terms "caregiver support" (without the quotation marks)

Similarly, where I live, there are volunteer caregivers that provide free respite care. There may be some in your community as well:

North Carolina Respite Care Coalition

 

[Curious]

Daniel, will do, thanks. high strung

 

[Retired]

Relevant to this discussion:

Caregiving: Recognizing Burnout | Cleveland Clinic

What Is Caregiver Burnout? - WebMD

6 Signs of Caregiver Burnout - Manage Caregving Stress - AARP