I recently graduated from university and then attended a college where I had a miserable class experience. I was depressed all year, only recieving counselling about once every month, and on top of this experienced intense panic attacks and social anxiety. The class was extremely critical, and I did not find the teachers supportive given my circumstances.
I'm now looking for a job in the field I studied for, but at a recent interview (with a former grad of the same program) the interviewer asked if she could call my former teachers for a reference. I choked and said yes, but then said I'd prefer they call the company for which I did my internship. The internship was extremely positive and I performed "beyond expectations" in many of the aspects I'd struggled with in the more toxic environment of my class. In my class I had been described as coming accross as snobbish, cold, stern, (I clam up when I'm nervous - and my teacher was very unsympathetic when I told her of this fact) and my trigger lable, lazy. At my internship I was described as professional, personable, articulate, very approachable, hardworking, as going above and beyond to help, and demonstrating a great deal of enthusiasm towards the subject. The director of the company called me "wonderful" and they even threw a party for me when I left.
I felt like having this glowing review may still help me get the job, but felt uneasy about having to be apprehensive about calling my teachers.
I suspect they called the teachers anyways, and I did not get the job.
The bad part is, I have not have panic attacks since I left the class. I feel like I am definately a hard worker who is eager to please (all of my former employers have always asked to have me back if I wished to return) but who reacted negatively to an critical, high stress environment. (My teacher called it the "no touchy feely zone" and confrontation was often rewarded). I want to prevent this from happening inthe future should I be in a high stress situation where I feel attacked again.
I felt very alone in the class, and find it hard not to be resentful given that I was going through a very hard time that year.
I withdrew into myself and became defensive as I often do when I'm under extreme stress and feel very little understanding from those around me (as I did in that situation).
I go to a psychologist where my treatment focuses a lot on CBT, but I know that I have certain sore spots that are pushed sometimes and a different side of me comes out.
CBT works, but if I avoid doing certain CBT activities because I have an underlying fear-- for instance, I'm worried that if I brush it off with a CBT technique I'll be taken advantage of and not actually deal with the problem-- what kind of therapy/reading should I look into?
Has anyone else gone through a darker period at your job? How did you deal with it when you left?
(It might also be of use to note that I have been diagnosed with Depression, Generalized Anxiety Disorder and Body Dysmorphic disorder, the three often converging into one glorious package . I have only this past year sought treatment but have been stuggling with it, particularily depression for over 10 years.)
I'm now looking for a job in the field I studied for, but at a recent interview (with a former grad of the same program) the interviewer asked if she could call my former teachers for a reference. I choked and said yes, but then said I'd prefer they call the company for which I did my internship. The internship was extremely positive and I performed "beyond expectations" in many of the aspects I'd struggled with in the more toxic environment of my class. In my class I had been described as coming accross as snobbish, cold, stern, (I clam up when I'm nervous - and my teacher was very unsympathetic when I told her of this fact) and my trigger lable, lazy. At my internship I was described as professional, personable, articulate, very approachable, hardworking, as going above and beyond to help, and demonstrating a great deal of enthusiasm towards the subject. The director of the company called me "wonderful" and they even threw a party for me when I left.
I felt like having this glowing review may still help me get the job, but felt uneasy about having to be apprehensive about calling my teachers.
I suspect they called the teachers anyways, and I did not get the job.
The bad part is, I have not have panic attacks since I left the class. I feel like I am definately a hard worker who is eager to please (all of my former employers have always asked to have me back if I wished to return) but who reacted negatively to an critical, high stress environment. (My teacher called it the "no touchy feely zone" and confrontation was often rewarded). I want to prevent this from happening inthe future should I be in a high stress situation where I feel attacked again.
I felt very alone in the class, and find it hard not to be resentful given that I was going through a very hard time that year.
I withdrew into myself and became defensive as I often do when I'm under extreme stress and feel very little understanding from those around me (as I did in that situation).
I go to a psychologist where my treatment focuses a lot on CBT, but I know that I have certain sore spots that are pushed sometimes and a different side of me comes out.
CBT works, but if I avoid doing certain CBT activities because I have an underlying fear-- for instance, I'm worried that if I brush it off with a CBT technique I'll be taken advantage of and not actually deal with the problem-- what kind of therapy/reading should I look into?
Has anyone else gone through a darker period at your job? How did you deal with it when you left?
(It might also be of use to note that I have been diagnosed with Depression, Generalized Anxiety Disorder and Body Dysmorphic disorder, the three often converging into one glorious package . I have only this past year sought treatment but have been stuggling with it, particularily depression for over 10 years.)