MaynardJamesKeenan
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I was just curious to see if anyone has been through or is going through the same problem I am. I dont know if its shyness, a social phobia, or what. I cant stay in a one on one social situation WITH ANYONE.
I make an effort to avoid one on one conversations with pretty much everybody. Be it on the phone or face to face. I cant talk with my best friend from high school, my brother, my mom, a stranger sitting next to me on the bus.
There are only a few ways for me to get through a social situation with anyone. We both have to be occupied with something. This takes a little stress off me because I hate "akward silences". Or the person I am with has to be an incessant talker. My only "friends" right now are people who need a "yea" or "uh-huh" every 30 seconds or so. I swear they could talk to themselves if it wasnt socially frowned upon.
This wasnt always the case. In middle school and the first half of high school I was pretty social. I had lots of friends and never even thought about a problem like this.
Im 22 years old right now and you can imagine how this would impact my life. My best friend from high school calls me up once every two months now. I swear he thinks Im a jerk. All of my other friends have given up. Any relationship with a girl turns to crap pretty quickly and all my current "friends" arent really friends at all. They are just people who let me land into a social situation easily.
Its almost like Im focusing on myself ALL THE TIME. Every once in a great while when I start thinking about the situation my old self comes out with a little bit of natural humor. I just ran into an aquantence at the gym. A girl comes up to me and asks "How are you? I havent seen you in a while?" I respond with the most generic crap while thinking "I wish you didnt see me here. Why did you approach me. I dont have anything fun to tell you. I cant make you laugh."
Can anyone suggest anything? Is there a word for this? Any literature on the subject I should be looking into?
I make an effort to avoid one on one conversations with pretty much everybody. Be it on the phone or face to face. I cant talk with my best friend from high school, my brother, my mom, a stranger sitting next to me on the bus.
There are only a few ways for me to get through a social situation with anyone. We both have to be occupied with something. This takes a little stress off me because I hate "akward silences". Or the person I am with has to be an incessant talker. My only "friends" right now are people who need a "yea" or "uh-huh" every 30 seconds or so. I swear they could talk to themselves if it wasnt socially frowned upon.
This wasnt always the case. In middle school and the first half of high school I was pretty social. I had lots of friends and never even thought about a problem like this.
Im 22 years old right now and you can imagine how this would impact my life. My best friend from high school calls me up once every two months now. I swear he thinks Im a jerk. All of my other friends have given up. Any relationship with a girl turns to crap pretty quickly and all my current "friends" arent really friends at all. They are just people who let me land into a social situation easily.
Its almost like Im focusing on myself ALL THE TIME. Every once in a great while when I start thinking about the situation my old self comes out with a little bit of natural humor. I just ran into an aquantence at the gym. A girl comes up to me and asks "How are you? I havent seen you in a while?" I respond with the most generic crap while thinking "I wish you didnt see me here. Why did you approach me. I dont have anything fun to tell you. I cant make you laugh."
Can anyone suggest anything? Is there a word for this? Any literature on the subject I should be looking into?