Changing the scene

[Charity]

I just had to post something here to make the next-most-recent thread go away from the main page. Every time I scrolled down the page scanning the threads, that one reached out and slapped me -HARD- in the face. It only confirms what I already knew, and I can't bear any more reminders of it.

The title of that thread has appeared on the page for quite awhile... I wonder if it had anything to do with my sudden, unexplained aversion to this site? I ordinarily find this an exceptionally safe and calming place to be, but lately there's been a sharp pain every time I scrolled past that awful title. Well, I've taken care of it for now, unless someone else replies to that thread and brings it back to the top of the pile.

 

[ladylore]

Is there anything going on in your life that is making you feel the way you do. What's up?

 

[Charity]

Nothing new. Just the same old stuff as usual, only I guess things seem to be a little harder to deal with lately. Feeling a little down, I guess.

That just happens to be one of my biggest triggers-- the fact that there is a very definite standard for feminine beauty in men's eyes, and it seems to be pretty well agreed-upon. And, of course, that it's just about the opposite in every way from my own appearance.

Silly to fret over something like that when I have real problems... but I've noticed that my mood is usually tied to how grotesque or non-grotesque I feel I look at the moment. I guess I've been feeling extra ugly lately on top of everything else.

 

[Jazzey]

Just popping in to tell you that I understand Charity. I don't know how it works - if it's how I'm feeling about myself that makes me depressed or, if it's depression that makes me feel horrified about myself both morally and physically.

But I will say this Charity - from where I stand, you're absolutely stunning, gorgeous. :hug::hug: (our insides have to count for something right? )

 

[Daniel E.]

And I assume that most people on those makeover shows eventually feel the same after their $40,000 veneers and their laser skin renewal, though they do seem to get a huge surge of confidence initially.

BTW, a "new" article that I just posted:

http://forum.psychlinks.ca/body-ima...sorder/18613-how-to-feel-more-attractive.html