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Daniel E.

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How to deal with depression at work
by Penelope Trunk, author of The Brazen Careerist

Kristen Ryan graduated a year ago and accepted a position in public relations. After two months on the job, she started having anxiety attacks, and after six months on the job, anxiety attacks were almost daily. Ryan says the anxiety was from the “pressures of life changes: Moving away from family, staring new job, transitioning to a completely different life from school to work. And," she says, “I broke up with my long-time boyfriend."

The most common age to experience depression for the first time is in one’s twenties. Typical triggers are those Ryan cited, resulting from the stress of entering the workforce. Recently, these triggers have been exacerbated, as the new generation of workers takes for granted that challenging and rewarding work will come their way. This is a generation whose parents oversaw each moment of their schedule to ensure proper mentoring and enrichment. So a job standing at the office copier is a big comedown that many new workers are not prepared to accept. For those who have no choice, the result can be depression.

Depression is serious: Fifteen percent of clinically depressed people die by suicide. The illness is more common in women than men, and according to the Canadian Mental Health Association, one in five working women has suffered from depression or anxiety.

The good news is that depression is very treatable, so getting help is important. Dr. Stuart Koman, president of the mental health clinic Walden Behavioral Care, says there is a preponderance of scientific evidence to show that a combination of medicine and talk therapy can solve most cases of depression.

Ryan found that sessions with a social worker helped her to get back on track. But not everyone recovers so quickly. Like Ryan, Rachael Chaump joined a public relations firm last year, and after a few months, she realized that she had a severe problem. She says, “I was crying at my desk every day for no reason. And finally I called my dad and told him I hate my life and I can’t go on like this." Chaump ended up on temporary disability in a treatment program that included drug therapy to treat what was a chemical imbalance.

Both women had to move carefully in order to keep the jobs they had. Ryan took meditation classes and then, when she had an anxiety attack she “went to a secluded place at work to meditate." She also took long walks outside in the middle of the workday. Chaump was not able to hide her depression as well, but she says that even with all her crying, “People just got used to it. As long as I kept answering the phone no one said anything to me."

If you think you’re depressed, you need to do two things: Figure out how to keep your job, and figure out how to get help. According to Jonathan Alpert, associate director of the Depression Clinic at Massachusetts General Hospital, “One of the most difficult calls is to recognize depression in oneself. This is true even for people in mental health fields. Often the first step is getting feedback from someone else."

Enter the employee assistance program – EAP – that helps workers confidentially identify mental illness in themselves. Denise Curran is a therapist at ComPsych, an employee assistance program serving six thousand organizations. She describes her role as sort of a referral service. Curran, like most EAP therapists, can give you advice over the phone or online as to whether you seem depressed, and who you can go to, locally, to get help.

The EAP process is completely confidential, but crying at your desk is another story. Chaump’s company, FCF Schmidt Public Relations, was incredibly supportive and gave her paid leave even though that is not the company policy, per se. Other companies are not likely to be so gracious, so be careful. A good resource is the book Working in the Dark: Keeping your job while dealing with depression. Author Beth Gulas, a specialist in corporate critical intervention, says the book can help you determine if it’s a safe environment to tell your boss about your depression. The book also gives advice on how to keep working through depression if you have to (example: set fifteen-minute goals for yourself.)

Before you curse the fact that you have to show up for work every day, consider that work might be a godsend for someone who is depressed. According to Gulas, “One of the typical symptoms of depression is choosing to be alone. But it is likely that depression will be exacerbated if you stay at home."
 
The hardest part about work is actually getting there It takes so much effort to just get dressed and to look appropriate but when i am there i am glad i went. Even the stresses there are better than being alone with my thoughts. Work place is a great distraction and also a way to reconnect to who i really am in the present.
 

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The hardest part about work is actually getting there It takes so much effort to just get dressed and to look appropriate but when i am there i am glad i went. Even the stresses there are better than being alone with my thoughts. Work place is a great distraction and also a way to reconnect to who i really am in the present.

Getting there can also be a part of the journey through and past depression. It requires you to focus outwardly instead of inwardly, which, in my opinion, is a critical skill to move beyond depression.
 
That is the hard part the journey as i do have to switch into a different mind set It is hard to explain I fight the thoughts the emotions all the way to work so when i get to work i can be who i am suppose to be a professional. It is not until i am actually on the floor in the enviroment that my mind set changes. It is like a switch that goes on and i just know what it is i am expected to do and who i am. If i am triggered at work i know to hide until it passes then get right back into the role again. I hope this is making sense I agree with what you said the focus does become more outwardly.
 

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That's exactly how it works for me too Violet.

You just put on a professional mask and get the job done.

I think my job has saved me.I don't have to soak in my feelings all day. I get a break from myself.
 
yes exactly a different mask a different person. The journey is the hardest because i fight to change from one persona to another and it takes so much energy to do so.
 

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I found that getting to work wasn't the biggest issue. If my moods were extremely low and I did try to go to work anyway. Usually by the time I walked in the door, I burst into tears.

I could not keep the smiles going all day and keep up with my work and also be able to deal with the people. I would be on a rollercoaster of emotions.

I commend anyone who can do it, but for me, it became a constant daily struggle. The more I "failed" the more I beat myself down.
 

Andy

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:teehee: I thought that was a cute misspell since we have a new Persona here.

Being the brilliant person(a) I am I also just realized it was my misread. I thought you were meaning to type "person" and typed persona because you had been chatting with her. :fool:
 

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It's still a cute catch :)

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I found that getting to work wasn't the biggest issue. If my moods were extremely low and I did try to go to work anyway. Usually by the time I walked in the door, I burst into tears.

I could not keep the smiles going all day and keep up with my work and also be able to deal with the people. I would be on a rollercoaster of emotions.

I commend anyone who can do it, but for me, it became a constant daily struggle. The more I "failed" the more I beat myself down.

I think there is a process to everything. If you're bursting into tears by the time you walk through the door, then just going to work might have been more than you could chew off that day. It's ok to call in sick when depression gets the best of you - it is a bonafide illness.

If you are at that point where you can barely walk through the door, I'd recommend asking your boss for shorter shifts (I'm not sure if that's possible or not) so the eight hour day doesn't seem so daunting and overwhelming before it even starts, and also ask your therapist for some coping skills to help you just get started. There's no guarantee either of those will work, but sometimes the anticipation of a perceived event creates an emotional response that doesn't have to be as strong as it is, if we can stay in the moment and keep our thoughts focused. Usually they run away on us rather quickly (my legs are very strong from chasing mine down all the time!).

And of course, antidepressants and/or anti-anxiety medication can only help when our lives get to this point.

The good news is...usually with time, therapy, and some cognitive restructuring, we can move past this.

I hope things have gotten better for you, NicNak.
 
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