I can not let go of 9 years

[kelsischanging]

I had been seeing the same therapist for 9 years. From the time I was 16 until now when I am 25. I knew it was no longer a beneficial relationship but I just couldn't sever the ties. Then I had an out. I have a drinking problem and am starting with a new therapist that deals with dual diagnosis ( I have bipolar disorder and and an alcohol problem). The thing is I feel like I am loosing a friend. I know that is stupid. He is my therapist. But I have seen him at the most every 3 weeks for the past 9 years...how do you let go of that relationship, even if it had become not very helpful at the end. I can't imagine not talking to him. I feel stupid for feeling like this. I almost feel like I am grieving a loss. I have been in email comunication with him so he knows what is going on with my alcohol treatment. Do I tell him how I fell?? I'm really not sure I can. I seriously feel stupid for feeling like this, but I'm like crying thinking of never talking to him again. 9 years, how do you let that go.

 

[GDPR]

Don't feel stupid,9 years is a LONG time. Of course you would be feeling the way you are.

Maybe talking to him about how you're feeling would be a good idea.

 

[rdw]

And talk to your new therapist too -he or she may help you to have some perspective on your relationship with the other therapist. Remember change is hard for all of us.

 

[kelsischanging]

Thank you both for your suggestions! Cognitively I know this is a good and neccessary change for me to continue to grow and get better but of course emotions do not always listen to reason

 

[forgetmenot]

Your therapist hun will help you to disconnect in away that is not so painful or frightening or sad Talk to him or her ok as your therapist will also find it beneficiary to have this opportunity to help you on with your next stage of healing