I have another question. This is completely separate from the meds...I was once seeing a therapist and she was a therapist that practiced cognitive therapy and was available on Saturdays. Which was good for me since i traveled a lot. I got upset with this therapist and stopped seeing her. This is one of those instances in which I thought ...maybe I have pmdd..so the scenario is this and i want to know if you guys think this is a reason to be upset or not.
I was seeing this therapist, her time limit was different than most, it was 45 or 50 min. which is less than I have seen before, usually it's 60mins. From the research I did when I was looking for someone, but I liked that she was available on Saturdays and practiced cognitive therapy. So, anyway, a problem came up. Since I travel so much, I usually pay things with my credit card. she did not accept cc's, it was cash or checks. Usually, I would pay her prior to or after visiting her office using online banking. She even offered phone therapy sometimes when I was out of state and could not come into her office. So, I liked how flexible she was. BUT, I made some mistakes in my payments either paying to late or forgetting. And, this was wrong- but not intentional (that I know of). So, then she wanted to discuss this in therapy and I did not. I wanted to discuss my issues in therapy, but she wanted to discuss the payment in therapy. This bothered me because I thought that any discussion on how I can pay her is a business conversation that needs to be done outside of therapy. She said this was part of therapy because it impacted our relationship as a therapist/client. BUT, I thought, no- I am paying to discuss issues I have and things I want to discuss- and if we are going to discuss payment that needs to be outside of therapy. It's not a personal issue. It's a business issue. Anyway, I got upset that she said this and was saying that it needed to be discussed in therapy because I felt like she was using my time and vulnerability to discuss things that should be discussed outside of therapy. And, because I let myself become vulnerable, trusting, and open to her..I felt she was using that to tell me why this is an issue to discuss in therapy..and then that I would believe it! So, i stopped seeing her. Do you guys think that was wrong? Do you think it is appropriate to discuss payment issues in therapy or outside therapy?
I always second guess myself, never really trusting my instincts, etc. But, I thought that maybe this was an over-reaction. Maybe this was pmdd, because it was around that time. Not sure, so I need some help and outside opinions.
I was seeing this therapist, her time limit was different than most, it was 45 or 50 min. which is less than I have seen before, usually it's 60mins. From the research I did when I was looking for someone, but I liked that she was available on Saturdays and practiced cognitive therapy. So, anyway, a problem came up. Since I travel so much, I usually pay things with my credit card. she did not accept cc's, it was cash or checks. Usually, I would pay her prior to or after visiting her office using online banking. She even offered phone therapy sometimes when I was out of state and could not come into her office. So, I liked how flexible she was. BUT, I made some mistakes in my payments either paying to late or forgetting. And, this was wrong- but not intentional (that I know of). So, then she wanted to discuss this in therapy and I did not. I wanted to discuss my issues in therapy, but she wanted to discuss the payment in therapy. This bothered me because I thought that any discussion on how I can pay her is a business conversation that needs to be done outside of therapy. She said this was part of therapy because it impacted our relationship as a therapist/client. BUT, I thought, no- I am paying to discuss issues I have and things I want to discuss- and if we are going to discuss payment that needs to be outside of therapy. It's not a personal issue. It's a business issue. Anyway, I got upset that she said this and was saying that it needed to be discussed in therapy because I felt like she was using my time and vulnerability to discuss things that should be discussed outside of therapy. And, because I let myself become vulnerable, trusting, and open to her..I felt she was using that to tell me why this is an issue to discuss in therapy..and then that I would believe it! So, i stopped seeing her. Do you guys think that was wrong? Do you think it is appropriate to discuss payment issues in therapy or outside therapy?
I always second guess myself, never really trusting my instincts, etc. But, I thought that maybe this was an over-reaction. Maybe this was pmdd, because it was around that time. Not sure, so I need some help and outside opinions.
