Moved abroad, missing family, fear of the future

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(sorry that I couldn't fit this to any specific forum section..)

About 4 years ago I left my sunny home country to move to another one for studies, then pursued a career. The first 2 years or so were easy and I enjoyed them very much, but then I moved further in the North to get a job and kind of started missing my family. (I'm an only child). My parents are getting older and they're not so social, they have mostly me actually, so I'm quite afraid I'm losing time not spending it with them more. Time we didn't really spend when I was younger.

The conditions of the north didn't help; lack of sun, lack of quality food, lack of my home mentality...

My problem was intensified by my fear of flying; I am horrified of flying so I couldn't visit often. They visited instead quite often. This summer I visited using other means of transportation (2 days traveling instead of 3-4 hours but I didn't mind)

In the meantime I started a relationship with a girl that lives here, and which comes from another country. This got things more complicated. Now I can't just abandon her to return to my country, if I decided to do so.

She wants to develop a career abroad and probably stay there. Me I would like to maybe start planning a way back, not in the short-term but in the medium-term; I really didn't expect things to get so complicated, now I have to choose probably?
Or is it just that I am a bit too sensitive about coming back?

Basically I am getting kind of sadness attacks when I have to go back / say goodbye, so this worries me quite much.

 

[forgetmenot]

It is hard making choices hun but can you not stay in contact with your family throught the computer web cam or what ever they use now Try to set a time each day to talk to your parents so you do not feel so alone I am glad they are able to come visit you. With regards to your fear of flying i get that one but is there a way you can get therapy to get over that fear. That way you can spend less time travelling and more time with your family. Hugs

 

[Emotions_Blocked]

It is hard making choices hun but can you not stay in contact with your family throught the computer web cam or what ever they use now Try to set a time each day to talk to your parents so you do not feel so alone I am glad they are able to come visit you. With regards to your fear of flying i get that one but is there a way you can get therapy to get over that fear. That way you can spend less time travelling and more time with your family. Hugs

We do stay in touch very regularly through Skype,phone and so on, but its not enough. The major problem is that I am a only child and that we're a bit far to visit let's say on a monthly basis which would be ideal.