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Have a look at some of the resources, especially some of the books, at Separation and Divorce: PsychLinks.ca.
You'll also find several helpful articles posted in this forum section (Ending Relationships: Separation Divorce.
You'll also find several helpful articles posted in this forum section (Ending Relationships: Separation Divorce.
:canadian:I'm having a really tough time, the reality of separating from my husband of almost 26 years is hitting me like a ton of bricks and I am very sad. 
Sometimes I feel like I cannot actually go through with it. My husband has a rare eating disorder called rumination and he says that I have focused all of our problems on that and that I have used his eating disorder as an excuse to leave him. He says that there are other problems that are going on with me and that I should go see a therapist. He is possibly right about all of that. He said that he has had enough of me and does not want me back. I have put him through alot.
All I know is that I feel very messed up right now and I need someone to talk to. I saw a therapist 2 weeks ago and and I should go back to see her again. I will. I am going through menopause and I think that perhaps that has something to do with (but probably not all of) what I am going through.
This is such a difficult time for me right now, I just cannot believe that this is happening.
Sometimes I feel like I cannot actually go through with it. My husband has a rare eating disorder called rumination and he says that I have focused all of our problems on that and that I have used his eating disorder as an excuse to leave him. He says that there are other problems that are going on with me and that I should go see a therapist. He is possibly right about all of that. He said that he has had enough of me and does not want me back. I have put him through alot.
All I know is that I feel very messed up right now and I need someone to talk to. I saw a therapist 2 weeks ago and and I should go back to see her again. I will. I am going through menopause and I think that perhaps that has something to do with (but probably not all of) what I am going through.
This is such a difficult time for me right now, I just cannot believe that this is happening.
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i am sorry to hear you are having such a hard time. i am glad you are going to see yiour therapist, she'll probably be very helpful in this difficult period for you.
have you spoken to your doctor about your menopause at all?
i don't think people have "excuses" for leaving their partners. i think it takes a lot of things to be wrong and a long time for them to be wrong before it ends in separation.
do you have any support in the form of friends or family?
have you spoken to your doctor about your menopause at all?
i don't think people have "excuses" for leaving their partners. i think it takes a lot of things to be wrong and a long time for them to be wrong before it ends in separation.
do you have any support in the form of friends or family?
:canadian:You are probably right that there has been alot of things that were wrong in my marriage for a very long time. One of them being the fact that neither of us were very good at communicating with each other. I guess that I didn't really need to have any excuse other than the fact that I wasn't happy in the marriage. My husband thinks that I am not happy within myself. He is right about that.
I have the support of my family here and of those who live all across Canada. I however do not have very many friends that I could call close enough to lean on in this time of crisis. Maybe one or two that's it. I made the mistake of focusing so much of my time over the years on my family that I neglected to nurture a close female friendship with anybody. I have secluded myself for far too long with no close girl friend to talk to or have fun with. I know that I need to get out more....get a part-time job, volunteer somewhere and just talk to people.
That is something about my personality that I need to work on. My mother was the same way, was quiet, shy and didn't have many friends. I have been told by my 3 sisters that I am the most like our mother. She has been dead for 19 years now, she died at the age of 47. That is another thing that I probably need therapy for as well. I have not been the same since she died. I guess no one is after a death. I suppose that is another topic that I can explore with my therapist.
I haven't spoken to my doctor about my menopause in quite a while. I am going to see him this Thursday and will have a chat with him about it.
Thanks Halo I am trying my best to reach out for support. I need all the help I can get at this very difficult time in my life.
I have the support of my family here and of those who live all across Canada. I however do not have very many friends that I could call close enough to lean on in this time of crisis. Maybe one or two that's it. I made the mistake of focusing so much of my time over the years on my family that I neglected to nurture a close female friendship with anybody. I have secluded myself for far too long with no close girl friend to talk to or have fun with. I know that I need to get out more....get a part-time job, volunteer somewhere and just talk to people.
That is something about my personality that I need to work on. My mother was the same way, was quiet, shy and didn't have many friends. I have been told by my 3 sisters that I am the most like our mother. She has been dead for 19 years now, she died at the age of 47. That is another thing that I probably need therapy for as well. I have not been the same since she died. I guess no one is after a death. I suppose that is another topic that I can explore with my therapist.
I haven't spoken to my doctor about my menopause in quite a while. I am going to see him this Thursday and will have a chat with him about it.
Thanks Halo I am trying my best to reach out for support. I need all the help I can get at this very difficult time in my life.
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