H! Thank-you for the warm welcomes and birthday wishes. I put the title of the song 'Ode to Billy Joe' as it was just playing on the radio and explains a bit about why this site interests me and why I am so sad. If you are familiar with the song and/or movie then you will understand a bit about what happened to my son. Of course the story would have to be updated to this century but basically the story of Billy Joe is very similar to my son's life. Having just heard the song I am crying an ocean of tears so I hope this post makes some sense. I find the comments and information here very helpful. I noticed a post discussing flaws vs. gifts that was getting a lot of response. For me I have to learn to love myself - flaws and gifts included. Mari