I've never had great social skills--I have no close friends, so last year I just gave up on being social all together and studied all the time. This year I am a senior in college, and I want to be social again, but I feel my social skills are worse than before.
I am an attractive guy, I don't say this to brag, but because I feel that this is a disadvantage. When people look at me they see a fun, outgoing, guy but I can never live up to this expectation.
Additionally, when I see a girl on campus and make eye contact with her, she'll usually look away in a millisecond before I could smile or say hi. So it's hard to meet new people.
Further, when I attempt to flirt with girls I either say dumb things or accidently say something mean, and it never feels natural. Also, when guys flirt, in a heterosexual way, with me I can never play along. I end up coming off "stuck up" or "aloof", but I don't feel that way. I'm just not good at making friends, I never was. For some reason people don't like to be around me.
I know flirting is supposed to be natural, and part of biology, but it doesn't feel that way.
Thanks for any help
I am an attractive guy, I don't say this to brag, but because I feel that this is a disadvantage. When people look at me they see a fun, outgoing, guy but I can never live up to this expectation.
Additionally, when I see a girl on campus and make eye contact with her, she'll usually look away in a millisecond before I could smile or say hi. So it's hard to meet new people.
Further, when I attempt to flirt with girls I either say dumb things or accidently say something mean, and it never feels natural. Also, when guys flirt, in a heterosexual way, with me I can never play along. I end up coming off "stuck up" or "aloof", but I don't feel that way. I'm just not good at making friends, I never was. For some reason people don't like to be around me.
I know flirting is supposed to be natural, and part of biology, but it doesn't feel that way.
Thanks for any help