Hey guys, I need some advice on how to spend more quality time with my family. My family is not a bad family - we all love each other, but none of us know how to communicate with each other. Our relationships feel very empty and like all our time together is being wasted. None of us really know each other, but it seems like nobody else is bothered and saddened by it like I am and that no one seems to care to fix it. I want to forge actual relationships with these people instead of just existing with 3 strangers in the same house.
I go to university and live away from home, but this summer I chose to spend at home in the hopes that I could become closer to them, but so far nothing's really changed. I am really upset and fearful about this. I feel like I'm losing time with them....I am getting older and won't live at home anymore and I want to travel and live in different places in the future, so I need to start fixing things with them now! I feel like we're at a breaking point and that we can't keep going on like this -- like something's gotta give. I heard Oprah say once that God gives you signs and chances to fix things -- like He throws a rock at you as a sign and if you don't listen He throws something harder and harder until you do. I want to learn the lesson now and improve my relationship with my family before God throws a boulder at me and it takes a death or something for it to actually work. I hope that made sense...
Anyway, I'm not good at talking about my feelings or very personal things with people in real life....which is probably a huge part of why my family relationships (well for that matter, all my relationships) are so lacking in substance. So it's not easy for me bring things up and talk about things that are sensitive like this. I've said things a couple times to my mom somewhat related to this, but i can only really get things out in a heat of the moment type deal and so far she hasn't really taken it seriously.
Well that was kind of long, but I hope someone reads it and can help. Thanks!
I go to university and live away from home, but this summer I chose to spend at home in the hopes that I could become closer to them, but so far nothing's really changed. I am really upset and fearful about this. I feel like I'm losing time with them....I am getting older and won't live at home anymore and I want to travel and live in different places in the future, so I need to start fixing things with them now! I feel like we're at a breaking point and that we can't keep going on like this -- like something's gotta give. I heard Oprah say once that God gives you signs and chances to fix things -- like He throws a rock at you as a sign and if you don't listen He throws something harder and harder until you do. I want to learn the lesson now and improve my relationship with my family before God throws a boulder at me and it takes a death or something for it to actually work. I hope that made sense...
Anyway, I'm not good at talking about my feelings or very personal things with people in real life....which is probably a huge part of why my family relationships (well for that matter, all my relationships) are so lacking in substance. So it's not easy for me bring things up and talk about things that are sensitive like this. I've said things a couple times to my mom somewhat related to this, but i can only really get things out in a heat of the moment type deal and so far she hasn't really taken it seriously.
Well that was kind of long, but I hope someone reads it and can help. Thanks!